So I sent the b-day card and my ex got it. He called his best friend to tell him what I had done (he got the card today, Monday). From what his best friend told me he is still mad that I cut off his phone and apparently has not matured in any way. That situation happened 3.5 months ago but he is still bitter about it. Real mature, not! I am sure the cd will be in use but clearly my ex is a real d-bag and a loser. As I have said before, know who you are dealing with before you send anything to an ex. I thought my curteous gesture would have sparked a thank you or a hope all is well but I got nothing for now. His best friend was also unclear as to if he would call me or not. One time he said I should expect a call another time he said don't expect a call. Bottom line, I made a mistake by sending him that card.

ISneezeFunny

I gotta ask, how'd your breakup go? Did you break up with him or was it him that did it? I ask mainly because the same thing happened to me on my birthday 2 months back...my ex called to leave me a msg saying happy birthday...but I didn't respond, but it's mainly due to the way we broke up.

AmExp

Well he ended things but I think the last straw was that I cut his phone off. Again, as I have said in previous posts, he was NOT responding to my phone calls and I had been paying is bill for about 7 months straight. So I snapped and got angry and reversed my payment. I cannot believe he is still upset about that and it happened 3.5 months ago. NOTE to everyone...don't deal with mentally unstable and sick people because this is what happeneds. Those ppl don't appreciate anything you do for them.

ISneezeFunny

Hmm...I'm not going to argue with you that he didn't respond to it well, and of course, you had the right to stop paying for it, but don't you think it would have worked out better if you just told him that you're going to stop paying for his phone bill?

AmExp

HOW!? He wasn't trying to answer my calls on purpose. A text would not have done anything. Ugh, I was sheepish to think anything positive could actually happen. How embarassing. Why his best friend felt the need to call and tell me he got the card is also disturbing. I almost feel as though since the result was not positive he could have kept it to himself. I guess we will just be going on another 3.5 months of not talking shortly it will be forever just because I turned his phone off. WOW

ISneezeFunny

yeah, it's a pretty messy situation...sorry to hear that.

my situation's...a bit different. my ex never paid my bills or anything, nor have I ever paid hers...but after 3.5 years, she breaks it off as she needed "some space..." then 2 weeks later, new guy. She left me a voice msg saying happy birthday...didn't respond. The past few weeks, she's been calling once a day, then twice a day...then left me a msg that said, "How do you expect us to fix things if you don't pick up..."

...frankly, I have nothing to say to her. She needed time, then found a new guy within 2 weeks...which to me, makes her untrustworthy. Perhaps she thinks I'm being immature by not picking up, but in my defense, it's too late to fix things.

AmExp

Yeah that is rough and not fair but I was being played from the jump and I did not know that. I was so loyal to this character it's not even funny. At least you GOT a bday wish. He didn't call me on my bday or anything which makes me wonder why did I even bother to send him a card. You're in the ATL!? So am I, kind of. What is it with Atlanta people?

ISneezeFunny

fushizzle. too much pollen getting into their heads I guess.

AmExp

Clearly, these people are doing the most ( not in a good way). I think another issue is settling for someone who is just not up to par. I should have known this person was bad news. But no, I just had to try to step out of the box. Never again. Never again.