what do you think . once a cheater and liar always one.

katrina jane higgo · #1 Mar 18, 2007, 12:23 PM

do you think people can go from always lieing and cheating on women to being with one and faithful and happy with just one instead of two or more... love love love need ur opinions

valinors_sorrow · Mar 18, 2007, 12:30 PM

More than an opinion, I have seen people overcome just about everything imaginable, including cheating and lying. I have overcome some stuff too.

But in most cases, it took hitting a kind of bottom where they felt a huge burning desire, sought outside help of some sort and found an ongoing longterm support system to achieve that kind of transformation. Anyone who has experienced a change on this magnitude almost always claims that hard work was necessary but it was worth it too. Because of what I have seen, I am inclined to say as long as a person is alive there is hope for a solution, a change-- but you don't ever find me making plans based on that hope because I am practical too.

With that said, I also see many people with problems who never attempt to change and manage to live with all sorts of crappy effects instead. Determining which path a person is taking requires keen observation and feet planted firmly in reality.

sypher373 · Mar 18, 2007, 12:33 PM

I would say its possible, but definately would take a LONG time...

chuff · Mar 18, 2007, 10:35 PM

It's like the lottery. I've seen it happen a few times, but I'd never expect it to happen to me and would make decisions accordingly.

vlee · Mar 19, 2007, 07:29 AM

I am not saying it is impossible, but unlikely. I wouldn't bank on it.

Squiffy · Mar 19, 2007, 07:32 AM

I wouldnt enter a relationship with a known cheater.

robertsqueen · Mar 19, 2007, 07:38 AM

When we were in high school my husband was a drug attict/drinker, theif and he cheated on me. Now he is a wonderful husband and father...so yes I do believe that people can change, if they want to and they are willing to work at it.

tishee_76 · Mar 19, 2007, 07:46 AM

hi katrina

In my experience, Admiting they have a problem, asking for help coupling with taking affirmative ACTION (not just words) is positive behaviour towards a person trying to overcome their demons and restore a healthy lifestyle..
Until you see any of this behaviour forming, yes to all the answers above!

You cant help someone who wont help themselves... (unfortunately)

Wildcat21 · Mar 19, 2007, 10:08 AM

Personally. I think it's in their genes AND they way they were brought up.

Cheater tend to hav parents who cheated/divorced. They don't understand loving relationships.



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