What do you do when your grown children hate you?
Asked Dec 29, 2012, 12:33 PM
My 26 year old daughter moved in with her child three years ago when her power was shut off. She had been living in the dark for over a week. I had been sending her money every month to get by on to no avail. She now has another (two year old). I adore the kids but my daughter disrespects me in front of the grandchildren and on her Facebook page. She calls me a crazy old man, a crack head (I never used drugs), etc. I gave her my only car (third one-she wrecked the other cars I also purchased for her) while I take the bus and walk to work, I pay the bills, I give her my credit card to use, etc. She doesn't get any support from her mom (we are divorced) (but holds her mom in high regard? )
I have lost my bearings and stress out when I am around her. Her oldest daughter (six years old) disrespects me often. I took back the car yesterday. She walked into my work and demanded the car in front of customers and coworkers. I told her she had to leave repeatedly until she did, finally. She says she is moving out (with not enough money to support herself). I feel like garbage. She took the kids to a babysitter (I used to watch the kids but complained she was taking advantage of me too often) today so she could go to work - walking with stroller, in 20 degree weather through four inches of snow at 6:00 am. I offered to give her a ride and she cussed me, (as usual) with "f" bombs, etc. Telling me I will never see kids again. I felt like she was "pressuring me" to give her back my car with the terrible conditions she had to walk in this morning, not seeing my grandkids anymore, etc. And didn't give in. I feel like total crap. I don't know what to do. I worship my kids and grandkids, but I can't take the put downs, and continual show of disrespect. What should I do? Please help.
Last edited by talaniman; Dec 29, 2012 at 01:12 PM.