you like this girl, and then she likes you, but her ex boyfriend wants you back and then she goes with the ex behind your back without telling you, what are you suppose to do?

duck22

Her going back to her ex tells you everything about how you and her are. What you should do is simple, move on.

bushg

duck22 is right she is playing games and will go back and forth. Do not give her another chance.

JBeaucaire

When you date someone with active feelings/involvement with an ex, you are fighting a losing battle. Unless there is something really remarkable about you, it is a futile.

You SHOULD move on, but you don't have to. You can stay in the battle for her, just be realistic. You can't motivate her to like you more than him, you can't guilt her when she keeps going back to him. You have to win her by being a better choice AND finding her willing to make that choice. You can't actually control either one of those things.

Good luck, choose wisely.

talaniman

You gracefully disappear from her life, and save your dignity, and self respect.

red grasshopper12

if you decide to move on and date someone else aren't you no better than she is?

spitvenom

It has nothing to do with being better then her because you moved on which means you have nothing to do with her anymore. You are free to date anyone you want. I mean you could sit there waiting and waiting and waiting for her to make up her mind but that is not fair to you.

talaniman

So you think you should just sit there while she makes up her mind, and does as she pleases??????

simoneaugie

To be exactly the same as she is, you would have to go out with your ex, behind her back. Is that who you want to be? Tell her what you're going to do. I suggest moving on too. Then, off you go.

red grasshopper12

shouldn't you talk with the person first before deciding to move on?