what do men want

blustar8i8 · #1 Feb 2, 2006, 08:57 PM

when you want an ex back after youve done wrong, how do you "get them back?" i know that i need to give my ex space, and i am. im getting on with my life and i have priorities lined up for myself. but hes still in my thoughts. in april possibly march im going to see him at a local dirt track that he races at every weekend. i know we are going to run into each other. im afraid that he will have moved on and be with a new girl and there i am wishing it was me. how do i keep me in his thoughts and show him that what happend in the past will never happen again? we still talk on a friendly level. not everyday, just every so often i tell him what going on and he tells me what goin on. i know only time will tell, but i was wondering if there was any advice that anyone caould give me about howi should go about things when i see him? also this is probably going to make some of you want to scream through the computer at me! (wildcat21 if you read this) but i got him a card.

not really a valentines day cardjust a blank card that says: learn from yesterday, live for today, and hope for tomorrow. i wrote- thats what im doing everyday. i also think of you. just thought that today deserved a card. hope that you have a happy valentines day. you are in my heart today and always. i have no plans of calling him between now or then or contacting him in anyway even txt mes. should i send it? its just valentines day you know? the day of showing you care. if it was just another day i wouldnt have gotten it, but i thought it would be sorta nice. let him know that hey im still here! and i still care! i havent completely lost hope in us! im afraid of the answers ill get out of this! go easy on me kids im fragile!

PrettyLady · Feb 2, 2006, 09:51 PM

Blustar, you can't make somebody want you. I understand that your still in love with your ex boyfriend, however, it doesn't seem like he feels the same way about you. You have to except that the relationship is over. I know it's hard for you to stop thinking about him, but you will eventually find someone who will love you back. So I think you should forget about this guy and move on.

bizygurl · Feb 3, 2006, 05:11 AM

Exactly what Pretty said. You can't make someone take you back. That is there decision and if they choose not too then they have their reasons wether you agree with them or not. I know its hard when you still have feelings for someone. And your absouletly right only time will tell. but you need to move on and if its meant to be then it will. But for now nothing is going to make him come back to you. Only he has the choice to make that decision. I do think however the card was a nice touch. At least it will make him think of the good times you have shared and that you still care, but I wouldn't get your hopes up too much. If you do, you may end up feeling worse than you do now, and thats not fun.

fredg · Feb 3, 2006, 05:19 AM

Hi, Blustar,
All you can do is talk with him, and if you already have with nothing coming out of it, then you have done all you can.
Letting him know how you feel is good; send him the valentine card.
But, be ready to accept that he might not be interested anymore. Talking with others, meeting new men, is the best way to get over someone, if that is what will happen. You will eventually meet someone who really, really falls for you; and with a little luck, you will fall for him, too. Best of luck.

lilred40 · Nov 28, 2007, 12:41 PM

If you set something free, and it comes back to you, then it was meant to be.



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