Hi, well my girlfriend of 6 months broke up with me about 3 months ago because her grandma who she lived with for 14 years died and now she lives with nieghbors. The reason why she broke up with me is because when her gma was in the hospital and she never called like she always does barely called me and I got upset and said things I didn't mean out of emotion like oh you don't care and little things like that and I guess it put her over the top and she broke up with me and before everything happen with her grandma we were so good and sooooo much in love and to this day I still love her very much and we hung out a couple times after the first time I guess I didn't time this right I tried to talk about us again and she got mad at me because she didn't want to talk about us getting back together at the time and id always call and text her trying and then she got mad at me and told me I was being obsessive. So I left her alone for a week talked to her again and things are OK she's not mad at me. I gave her a card for her birthday a couple days ago and she seemed excited to see me hugged me a couple times. She even told me she loved me the first time we hung out after her grandma died. Now all I do is think about her I can't get her out of my head and I really want to get back together with her but I don't know how and I don't want to be selfish. Before everything we were perfect except little arguments like in all good relationships but other than that we did everything together always told each other we loved each other. I really want to get back together and I love her so much still what should I do?

You be a friend and let her grieve. Don't try pushing your luck with her. If there is to be anything more, it will happen eventually.
How old are you? That was a pretty immature thing you did. You're lucky she is dealing with you again.

I can see this is on your mind a lot. I don't recall what others have responded to your previous posts on this situation, but she needs some time to heal, not only from breaking up with yo,but from losing her grandma. What happened has happened, and you can't take back what was done. You can learn from it though. You made her choose between you and her grandma in the hospital. I'm not sure how many would have chosen his or her bf/gf over a sick relative.

She might need a friend to lean on right now, after losing her grandma. So if you are up for it, be there for her. I would not push the relationship topic with her. As you have experienced, it only makes her mad. Give her time.

How old are you two? You will learn that in times in our life, the gf/bf may not always be the highest priority.

From what I have learned over the past few months, girls just need time to themselves I'll admit, I'm very insecure in the fact that when I had a girlfriend, I got really upset when she failed to contact me for whatever reason... but I later found out that I was just paranoid. I'm 17, and have now learned from that mistake.

The truth is, that's just how things work. If she wants space, you have to give her that space whether it kills you or not. That will show that you truly care for her feelings. Selfishness is definitely a no-no when it comes to girls. I'm not saying let her walk over you and give her anything and everything she wants, but be a gentleman. It's apparent that this girl you described went through a very hard time, and just needed time to herself. Respect that, and leave her alone (just for future reference).

So as for where you should go from here, wait it out. Stay her friend if that's really what you want to do, but again, don't do it out of false hope that you will get back together, because it might not happen. If it really is destroying you inside, give yourself some space and time to get that love for her out of your head. On the other hand, if you really do love this girl, again... stay her friend. After what she's been through, letting her come to you is your best bet. But just as a warning, don't go gambling an arm and a leg for it.

Maybe if you hung out with your friends for 3 or 4 centuries things would liquefy and flow back into their original form and then everything would be like it was before GM passed. When you hang with a friend and they twist an ankle do you help them or just get wizzed off?

Trust is the more important thing in love. Just trust her. Believe in what u see and never believe in what other says.

If I were you (as hard as it is)i would ignore her for a while, give her 2-3 weeks to think about what she really wants, if she does call you during that time and wants to hang out, make an excuse that your busy with something, but DON'T make it obvious, and plan another day to see her(while your on the phone with her)don't make yourself easily available!! I cannot stress that enough, this will be a turn-on to her subconsciously, she will admit that you are different now to herself, and she will like that. When you finally do meet with her, don't mention anything about a relationship, just see what it is that she wants to talk about, and you should be able to get a feel for what it is she wants. DO NOT LIE TO YOURSELF, if you think that she most likely doesn't want to get back together, this feeling is probably correct, I would say about 90% of the time.

Unfortunately, by you constantly texting and calling her, no girl likes that, and in my opinion this may have ruined any chance of getting her back. This makes you WAY less attractive to her, even if you're a great looking guy, because it shows an emotional weakness to her. She was going through a very tough time in her life, and she seems like the kind of girl who needs/wants to be alone to heal.

Its not healthy to hang out everyday, in my opinion. She probably feels smothered, like her entire life has to revolve around you, and that just cannot be, she will love you less and less because of this, if she loves you at all, so if you do get back together you need to be able to hang out with other friends, without worrying about what she is doing, just have fun with some guy friends.

Big Picture: Give her some space, let her come back to you, if you KNOW she truly loves you, she will most definitely come back, I guarantee that,but it won't happen overnight, she will be wondering/going crazy in her head as to why you haven't been trying to call her/hang out. However, if she doesn't call you during this time, I would try to move on, but from what you have said, I really don't see you giving up easily, and that will make it more painful.

I may be new to this site, but I'm not new at relationships, think about what I said, I'm not sugar-coating my advice, but I'm also being completely honest.

GOOD LUCK Joe