what do do when my boyfriend sleeps with his ex?

rainbowskittles · #1 Apr 1, 2008, 05:07 AM

Just recently, Thursday, me & my boyfriend of over a year now had a little arguement but then on Friday he saw me holding someones hand to get into a club (as im underage & he wasnt) then we had a massive arguement and told me to off etc and i felt really bad. but just yesterday i found out that friday night he went picked up his ex went to his & had sex with her then she stayed & this happened again the next day, then on the Sunday i confronted him & he denied it then later admitted it & now hes begging me back. the other thing is, im pregnant and him and his ex both knew this, i dont know what to do, wether to take him back or seek revenge. I also now have extreme hate for his ex girlfriend and want to throttle her. Any ideas? x

charlotte234s · Apr 1, 2008, 05:11 AM

Have extreme hate for him, and break up with his pathetic butt.

nickshehe · Apr 1, 2008, 05:31 AM

For starters, if you're too young to get into a club then you're definitely too young to be having a kid..Your thread should be renamed too "I'm underage and I'm pregnant - what do I do?" - thats your main problem.
Now to move on to the less important things, you said your boyfriend cheated on you twice in a row..theres no excuse for that. If it was once, he could blame it on alcohol or the alignment of the stars on the day or I don't know what..
Dump him and don't speak to him again..or atleast make him work for your trust again..if he cheated on you and you take him back in a short period of time then he will have learned nothing.

duck22 · Apr 1, 2008, 08:43 AM

First off nobody is innocent in this situation. Your running around in clubs with other guys while pregnant and underage. Instead of worrying about revenge you should be worrying about your child and what kind of mother you will be. Whether you take him back or not is your decision, but neither of you seam mature enough to raise a child and should seek counseling now. Whatever you end up doing your child's best interest should be your greatest priority.

Romefalls19 · Apr 1, 2008, 08:45 AM

Wow...There is just so much wrong with this post so let's try to sort this out.

First, you're underage, stay out of the clubs! You are also pregnant...STAY OUT OF THE CLUBS! Then you're off holding another guys hand.

Second, you are deciding to hate his ex-girlfriend? Um, she's not totally at blame here. Try hating your ex and not talking to him. He obviously doesn't care about you, you can be mad at the ex girlfriend all you want but I would be more angry with my "boyfriend"

Third, PLEASE seek counseling(like Tal said) about this, alone. As to what your options are, you do not sound like someone who is ready to take care of this kid. Please think carefully

Apr 1, 2008, 12:59 PM

Dump him. There is no future for you in this relationship and he will only cheat on you again. He does not love you and he does not respect you.
There are lads out there far more suitable for you than this specimen.

isabelgopo · Apr 1, 2008, 02:30 PM

I would leave him, with somebody like that by your side you are better off on your own.



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