A month ago I couldve sworn she was head over heals for me..2 weeks ago when she wanted a break it was a shock to me..and now one week ago that she's simply left me her friends tell me how she's going to ibiza in a couple of weeks and she's having the time of her life..and that she told them that she just stopped caring for me and that is that...
How can that even happen??
I feel so weak.. and helpless and I know I dont need her but I do..

nickshehe

what I need to do is grow some ing balls and stop whining...
sorry, delete this thread...

spitvenom

Man, just get out there and met some new women. You will be over her in no time. And stop talking to her friends do you really need a daily update of what she is doing.

nkychic

Ending a relationship sucks no matter how it happens. It's probably better for you that she is moving on because this will give you the incentive to do so. There is no need to jump right into another relationship, but you do need to get out and meet some more people. Leave her friends to her and confide in your own friends. I know it's all easier said than done but I can assure you that moving on would be a heck of a lot harder if she were constantly calling you. I wish you the best of luck dear and please feel free to message if you want to talk.

<3 Leslie

nickshehe

I go from being angry at her to hating myself for letting this happen..
I dont understand

spitvenom

We have all been there man. Don't hate yourself for something You can't change. But what you should do is learn from your mistakes. I obviously don't know what happened but from what you are saying you feel as if you did something for her to come to this decision. Think about what you did and learn from it for the next time. If you were to overbearing and needy(not saying you were just using that as an example) learn from that for the next girl you meet give her space and just let the relationship have a natural flow.

I would have things in my mind for how a relationship should work. And I would try to force them on the girl and it always caused a break up. So i Just said F@#K it, It is what is and I am not going to try to make it what I think it should be.

talaniman

Your feelings are so natural, and we all have felt them, but in time you'll get over them, and be curious about life. You can't see it now, but it will happen, if you let it.

nickshehe

I sent her a huge e-mail about 4-5 days ago..I took the blame for the way things came to the way they were in our relationship and I told her that the e-mail wasn't a plea for her to come back or to reconsider things and that I respect her decision though I dont like it..She was inexplicably cruel to me when she called it off and I told her I was angry about that and that I respect myself too much to have anyone talk to me in that way..
I told her that I knew I didnt need her because no one needs anyone in this life, that I wasnt going to die without her..I also said that I knew I'd be happy someday, and it just saddened me because there was more that I wanted for us to do before we called it quits..
Even so I wished her luck in her life and told her she was my best friend and I can't stopped caring about her no matter the circumstances.

and that was that..
I'm sure she's read it by now and it hurts that she didn't reply but I also wrote that I didn't expect her too because she's probably still confused/angry at me or just maybe having too much fun to worry about me..

Her friend told me that she told her that she just stopped caring for me and she's having fun being single and she didnt want to be with me anymore..It sucks to hear but I can't do anything about it...it just leaves me with a gaping mouth knowing its the same girl that was all over me less than a month ago..

Anyway in response to your comments, I've been down this road before with the "first slap in the face" I had..I can't say I learnt anything from the first time because this happened again and like you all said I can only hope to learn from this..
The plus side is that I'm not as miserable as I was the first time, though it hits me at random times in the day..Since the day after she broke up with me I tried to go out with friends though I wasn't having fun I still tried..I went out with 2-3 girls..One girl wants to dump her boyfriend for me which pissed me off because she hardly knew me and she's going out with the guy for 2 years..
It's just that things like that don't leave hope for me in the future..That girl could've been my girlfriend and that guy could've been anyone else.. Anyway I'm not going to do anything with a girl who's willing to dump her boyfriend of 2 years for me, when I don't really care about her..I want to tell the guy but I should mind my own buisness..
I wish I could fall for someone else immediately and jump into a relationship now but I know that isn't going to happen and wishing for it to happen will only delay its process..
I have exams at uni and I cant bring myself to studying with all of this going on around me.
There hasnt really been a question in this post its just me reflecting on things..
I find what you guys are doing really amazing..I read alot of other stories from other people and you're all helping everyone I think that it's great..

anyway..a random question that I just thought of..are those online dating sites any good?

I know theres a common misconception that only people who can't get real dates use them and that kind of scares me..I mean I'm pretty confident when it comes to girls, I just feel meeting alot of people online will save me time and you can get to know someone quicker that way before you take a step..

jolienoire

The only way to find out is to try it for yourself, I mean it has its pro's and con's as with anything else, there are some ppl who can scam you on those sites so be careful. all in all don't jump into anything take your time, chat if you must.. But really you need to take this time to build yourself back... Study, don't let this woman have control over your future... Study just as hard as you want her back... Study just as you took that time to write that email use that energy in a way that is beneficial to you!

Good luck! I think you are a sweetheart, and very well intouch with your emotions, I can confidently say that you will find someone.. Hang in there... It takes a lot to express your emotions, especially when hurting and you are open with your feelings....

hollyparrott

Why do you feel the need to be dating someone? And if you think back, are there no girls that seemed to be over keen on you, and YOU were tryiing to avoid THEM?