i went out with my best friend for 8 years and we went tosome guyfriends house, i was givin a date rape drug that night and me and that guy had sex. my best friend went right away to my boyfriend for three years and told him we had just gotten drunk and we slept together. she continued to says that i had slept with all these other guys over the course of our relationship and among other things. my boyfriend left town right away with not even a call or questions believing her. we have talked on chat but not phone. im hurting over what happened with my friend and him but he believes i have been cheating. how do i regain his trust back so i dont loose him. he is in another state now. it hurt him bad. and he left everything behind. not sure how to get him back.

Torrid13

First of all, poke your friend in the eyes with a spork. What kind of "best friend" is that?!

Maybe you should wait until he cools off some. Leave him a message saying that you would really like to talk about what happened and ask if he would mind meeting you for coffee or something else. If he doesn't want to or doesn't respond, then just move on. And find a new best friend.

It's a little odd to me that he didn't ask you what happened before he left town and took your friend's word for it, especially after you've been dating 3 years. Perhaps you did something in the past that might have made this accusation seem plausible?

liz28

You should have went to the cops and/or hospital when you were date rape. You don't know if this is this guy MO nor how many girls he date rape and got away with it. Also, watch who you drink around.

I don't know if I am right but I am starting to think that maybe your so called friends been setting you up because she wants your man. This is dangerous!

Stop calling this girl your friend because she is not your friend and deserve a place on your sh*t list. She is an enemy. True friends stab you while your looking not while your not.

As for your boyfriend--I don't know if or when he is going come around. However, I must say watch your surrounding and watch where you place your trust.

meganelsarji

he didnt aprove of me before when i was managing a bar and i went out with a lot of my guy friends. he felt like he was being ignored. but i had no girlfriends because i didnt trust them exept her. we had broken up and he came back home so i dumped all my guy friends didnt go out but with him. and stayed around him all the time. he doesnt believe girls should hang out with guys and drink together. i tried to do everything i could for him not to feel ignored by leaving everyone else behind except my ex best friend. she told him i was sleeping with all these guys and when me and her got home that morning i didnt have time to talk to him cause i felt so drugged. so i lkayed down. we have talked about it and he just said he didnt know what to believe. hes in anothe state ohio im in mississippi. we have been talking on chat everyday but havent been about us. i want him to be here for me for what had happened but i also know i souldnt have went with her. i dont know what to do to get him to believe me. and he was really the one i wanted to be with for the rest of my life.she told him some awful things and he believed her because he said she was my best friend and never tried to come on to him. but since we have been together she said she liked him but would never do anything to hurt me.

liz28

So you changed your life around in order to please him because of his insecurities? Wrong move!

Then your friend tells you she likes him but would never act on her feelings but you still decide to trust her? This should have been a little alarming to me.

It seems like your better off without him because he have too many conditions and I wonder what changes he have made for you upon your request.

Torrid13

Your friend is a SHE-DEVIL!

meganelsarji

we have not spoken since and she is on my list i didnt know it was a date rape drug at first the guy ive known for several years. she has hers coming but he did change a lot for me and he was a great guy. i was just young and wanted a social life and didnt expect to fall in love with him like i did. when he left i chose to give my friends up for him. he is a good guy. but does have insecurites and this girl is really good at getting people to believe what she wants them to .