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What is the best thing to do to gain trust?

Asked Mar 10, 2010, 11:49 AM — 103 Answers
I have had many trust issues with my boyfriend. Although we continue to fight a lot, but people say the relationship is not going to be ever in the "honey moon" phase ever again. I feel like he is not trying to trust me again because he wants to have reason to fight with me. He barely says "I love you" anymore because he says I know he does love me, but I deserve to hear it. He is in Florida right now for tennis tournaments he has to play and he made me call him off my house phone to prove to him I am home and not out of town or doing something that I didn't tell him. I care about him, but I want things to work. We have been on the rocks for 3 months already. I don't know what to do...

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Mar 12, 2010, 12:35 PM


I'd buy him a nice card -- one that says "Goodbye and Good Luck."
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Mar 12, 2010, 12:47 PM
I wouldn't even bother buying him a card.
Assuming this is the guy from your other thread,wake up and smell the coffee,you can do much better than this immature brat.
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#43

Mar 12, 2010, 12:57 PM
While his attitude and sense of entitlement is lousy immature and selfish,you have to accept some of the responsibility because you feed into his bratty behavior by giving him what he wants.

This is not what real life is all about and he needs to stop being so superficial and you need to put yourself first.

You should not have to struggle to appease his desires.

Honor yourself and don't ever allow anyone to do less to you!

If I were to do anything,I would make a small donation in his name to a worthy charity,maybe then he will see that his petty greed is a very unattractive trait.
vanheart (Mar 12, 2010 10:30 PM): You forgot she slept with his twin.   Source:
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#44

Mar 12, 2010, 02:07 PM


Of course its the same guy, and as usual the hard working mod has merged her threads. Oh why can't they just post on the same thread about the same guy?
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Mar 12, 2010, 02:11 PM
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Of course its the same guy, and as usual the hard working mod has merged her threads. Oh why can't they just post on the same thread about the same guy?

I don't know what else to say. You slept with his twin brother. They fought and and are no longer speaking. His mother is infuriated that you caused a split in her family.
They will never accept you and if they do think of what an uncomfortable situation you are putting them in.

Your parents don't know you're back together and neither does his. You say you were drinking and taking drugs when the infidelity happened? That isn't a very good excuse. You say you were broken up at the time. You also say you are going to the military? That will be the end of it. He'll move on, you'll move on. So why are you asking again for advice!
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Mar 12, 2010, 02:15 PM
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Of course its the same guy, and as usual the hard working mod has merged her threads. Oh why can't they just post on the same thread about the same guy?
Maybe by asking the same question over and over, we will give them the answer they want to hear. That way they can live in their happy fantasy land
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Mar 12, 2010, 02:28 PM
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Maybe by asking the same question over and over, we will give them the answer they want to hear. That way they can live in their happy fantasy land
Wouldn't it be great if they took the advice sometimes?
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#48

Mar 12, 2010, 10:12 PM
Holy crap.

Is this a movie?

I think I saw this one.
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Mar 12, 2010, 10:24 PM
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Holy crap.

Is this a movie?

I think I saw this one.

Sounds like one. True story!
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Mar 12, 2010, 10:31 PM
Read "Twins"

Good lesson in coming in-between.
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