I went no contact for a month, she just im'd me on AOL

nkychic · Sep 17, 2007, 04:20 PM

I think you could be right, it could simply be out of guilt. However I think there is more to it. My exboyfriend of 2 years and I broke up. We didn't talk for almost 4 months before I got a text from him. Just when I thought I was over him, he reminded me I still care. I honestly think it's her way of keeping you hanging on. A way to keep you from forgetting her and your past. Maybe she honestly does want to know how your family is, maybe she is genuinly concerned about you. I could be 100% wrong in what I said. But I definitely think there is a possiblity that this is her way of ensuring, or at least knowing that you will still jump when she says the word.

I have to applaud you in not returning the message. I'm impressed. That takes guts and causes heartbreak, but not near what it would if you had to relive the pain you've tried so hard to forget.

ilovcali · Sep 17, 2007, 04:22 PM

Move on. Block here I'm. DON'T RESPOND. You are progressing WITHOUT HER! AWESOME! So why ever regress? You'll have to go through a lot of hell to get back to where you are now, if you open the can of worms she left for you with her I'm.

Honestly, I have no idea why she IM'd you. And the best thing is not to even speculate. WHO CARES WHAT'S GOING TO THROUGH HER HEAD. She's not your concern anymore. And you're probably right, she's keeping you on the burner just in case. SCREW THAT!

Let it go and let her go. KEEP MOVING FORWARD!

--Cali

Ash123 · Sep 17, 2007, 04:24 PM

No response.

Nothing is gained for you by contacting right now...it's a lazy bait trick.

More later.

madaman · Sep 17, 2007, 04:25 PM

My biggest question to you would be why you went to the trouble of changing your number, but not blocking/deleting her on your messaging programs. I think I know the answer though because I've done the same thing.

mckenzie134 · Sep 17, 2007, 04:33 PM

No need to reply to that.

This is just the beginning.

People do not message you unless there is some slight interest.

You obviously still want her back we know that, but don't take this a s a sign that she wants you back. Writing as a friend that is a bit strange like she is trying to say something , don't respond, for anything to happen the tension must rebuild, she may be realising what she lost, a great guy.

Wait it out... Let us know of her next move....

In the mean time you remain silent... Mysterious...

Wondergirl · Sep 17, 2007, 04:44 PM

I'm female and am betting she is just throwing out a baited line to see if you bite.

Don't bite. There's a hook under that bait. The hook will hurt like heck. Swim away.

Skell · Sep 17, 2007, 04:47 PM

I wouldn't even contemplate being with her again. She dumped your ar$e because it was long distance and then went and got in another one. You're right, she's only contacting you to see if you are weak and still want her. She is praying on your weakness and it feeds her ego. Don't give her the pleasure.

Why would you want her back? Sounds like a stupid idea to me. Block her from AOL and continue to move on. People very rarely get back together successfully despite what others will try and tell you.

I went no contact for a month, she just im'd me on AOL

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