I haven't posted for a while, but since the last post a lot has happened. To sum things up I was seeing a married man who hurt me very much, as at the time I was still on paper married to my husband.

Well, my husband and I since decided to separate. And that so called boyfriend of mine told me him and his wife were done. So, I went to meet up with him and infact he was living with his friend. We spent the weekend together and he made me a million promises. He showed me his phone with all the texts from her and I believed this time he was done.

Then a few days later he told me he had to go back to her because his friend asked him to leave. I was furious... How could he do this I thought? He said I should understand that at this time he is not working and has no family here to live with. And yes that is true, but if he loved me then why go back to her? He said I was irrational to be mad at the situation and I should just wait.

Funny I was doing ok for the last month without him, seeing a social-worker, and hanging with my friends. But I still thought about this guy every day. When you love someone it isn't easy to just erase them. I stayed strong cut him out of my life, then when I thought he was finally done he went back... What do you do when you love someone? You get weak, you act irrational and I was happy with this guy. But what do I do? If I walk away it will hurt so bad, but part of me is tired of being hurt by him. I feel like a jerk for giving him a second chance, but I saw it for myself he was out. Do you think he loves me? Do you think he is just with her for security? Or is it he will never leave her and I am his crutch? I feel lOST all over again. He loved me to death when this happens and now he is acting strangely.... The pain and confusion I feel is unexplainable. Thank you...

simranrajput

wow mam.i juz replied to your previous question.check that too,before reading this.
well if you like me to answer you straight,sorry to dissapoint you but you are being used.married men can lie almost as easily as eating a cake.
he spoke to you wat you wanted to hear.and he has just kept on using you.
it was a huge mistake to go back to him,as good as a sin,which you've commited against your ownself.
married men are alwaz far too committed to leave their wives.trust me neither is he planning nor will he leave his wife.
all he is doing is enhancing his greedy satieties from you.
nothing good will come out for you.leave him before you are in a situation nothing can be done.
youve done enough damage to yourself.come out of it.dont be used and tossed away.
get real...he doesnt love you.who is suffering ?you...who is feeling gulity?you...
now you choose either pain of few days or happiness of few days which mite later be suffering of a lifetime.choice is yours.
goodluck...

talaniman

Your problem is very simple, you are putting more love into someone else other than yourself. Until you learn to love yourself and make yourself happy you will always fall for the ones who don't love and honor you. Your decisions are mistakes brought on by you not loving yourself and expect others to love you. It doesn't work that way, as your finding out the hard way. Leave the relationships alone period and find what makes you happy and do for you until you are healed and healthy again. Only then can you be ready for a healthy relationship, and you can see the lies and false promises, when they come out of a selfish losers mouth.

Sportsfanatic

Thank you, for your help...

simranrajput

you're always welcome dear...its smart of you to ak for advice and be strong to implement it in your life...wish you goodluck...

s_cianci

This is it, exactly. You know the answer to your question, now it's up to you to do something about it. Personally, I'd hate to think that your own marriage broke up over this guy.

Sportsfanatic

I know I made a big mistake ever getting involved. I do know the answer, yet it is so hard when you truly love a person. I guess I am naive to think people don't lie, or could lie when they tell you they love you.