I'm 16, and dated this girl who was 18 for 4 months. We had a great relationship, and things seamed to be going perfectly until one day I get a text message saying she would call me when she got out of work. She apparently needed sometime to think, and the next day she just decided to break up with me. We started dating at the very end of the school year (I was a sophmore and she was a senior). She's in college and just recently got her own apartment. She actually broke up with me like a day after getting it coincidental eh? She told me that she had all these feelings for me, and I knew I was in love with her/still am. She said she has all this freedom now, and doesen't want to be "tied down to anything", but i'm pretty sure that she'll date some other guys soon. I don't know what to do, I don't want to move on, I want her back. I haven't cried this much in my life, which is about everyday, and just barely a month since we broke up. I'm still a bit confused, and wish I knew how to get her back, she just seams perfect for me, I never thought I would fall this young in life, but it happened. So yeah...any suggestions?

jeffatl

At "this young in your life" you will fall, and fall, and fall again for girls. The truth is VERY few people stay together from highschool and get married (unless a baby is involved). College is a time where you get out and find yourself, and I think its a good thing for you NOT to be with this girl while she is going through this time in her life. Girls seem to go through this "crisis" a bit more than guys do, but you have to just let it go. You are only 16, there will be PLENTY more girls for you. It hasnt even been a month, just give it some time. It took me a WHILE to get over my ex, dont expect it to just *POOF* go away. Each day WILL get easier, and you will be just fine. Go out with friends, talk to some new girls, and NOT your ex............ DO NOT TALK TO HER!!!!!!!!!!! Best of luck to you!

tabhishekreddy

i can tell u dont even try to go back of her this would make u feel bad if she doesn't respond to u the way u want her to.i am facing a problem similar .if u try to be still more generous and try to go back of her she will not even turn back to u instead she may hurt u.so back off immediately trust me if u were true from ur real heart leave it to god she will come back if she doesnt she doesnt deserve u as simple as that may be u may get a better girl who will understand u in & out.You r too young to take all this u will come across many such loves in ur future,someone somewhere is definitely made for u,you should not loose her.take every failure as a lesson and think what has gone wrong and dont just do it again.better speak to ur parents tell everything happened to u they may scould u in the beginning but they will surely support u and make u much stronger.

Take care buddy wishing u all the goodluck.god bless u with wat all u wish to have.

talaniman

The two previous answers are excellent for the advice they give. I suggest you stop contact and move on with your life and learn to enjoy your life without her. It may take time but eventually you will put this behind you and see what a big world with endless possibilities this is.

Wildcat21

Yep -great answers - as hard as it may seem - move on. NO CONTACT - NONE. She may come back. Be a MAN.

When you put too much inportance into things - this happens.

J_9

I just have to say

"Ouch the age difference!!" Although 2 years really is not that much, it can be in this certain situation. Between 16 and 18 can really be a huge difference, much moreso than 30 and 32, at least developmentally.

I agree with every answer you have so far. Keep your distance, be a man, and see what happens.

s_cianci

No doubt she wants to feel her oats right now. Just starting college and getting her own apartment, she's tasting real freedom for the first time in her life and no doubt wants to savor as much of it as she can. That's why she doesn't want to get tied down into anything right now. I'd just back off and forget about her for now. I know it'll be hard at first but get yourself involved in other activities that'll leave you little time for worrying and obsessing about her. Concentrate on your studies, join a club or team at school, take up a hobby, hang out with your own friends, date other women, get a part-time job. You need to be able to enjoy life just as much without her as with her. She's on her own right now and isn't coming back anytime soon, so don't hold your breath waiting on her and letting your own life pass you by.

Zachihifhjihdihufj

I don't think I could deal with no contact. I talk to her online about twice a week, albeit our conversations aren't very long, and I still see her sometimes, and we get intimate. She says she still cares about me and "loves me", it's all very confusing. The last time I saw her she was openly flirting with other guys, which was a bit weird for me, but I guess I still want to see her ocassionally, even though I might have to witness stuff like that. Thanks alot for all the advice though guys.

Skell

See how much she loves you when you stop contact. does she love you or does she love that she controls you.
Pull away and see if she comes running.
It is the best way to see if she really loves you.
if she doesnt come then you know you were wasting your time anyway!

sirbaron

This is not the end. Time heals. Youll be in love again next week.