We slept together but he has a profile on several dating sites !

annsumm · Mar 9, 2008, 07:11 AM

Met a guy last October, we went on 5-6 dates and mutually agreed to take it a step further and slept together. We broke up after a couple more weeks (he got back with his ex). We then got back together about 6 weeks ago (yes I agreed to take him back). The other night I was round his place when i noticed on his laptop toolbar that he had visited Match.com. When I got home I searched match.com out of curiosity and he has a very recent profile on there and on several other dating sites. I phoned him and asked him what was the situation ? He replied 'well, i didn't think you wanted anything too heavy' ! For god's sake, I gave him a second go and we are sleeping together. Do i have the right to be annoyed and disappointed ?

peggyhill · Mar 11, 2008, 10:30 AM

I think that was a good decision to make. Good for you! Good luck and I hope you meet someone nice soon!

JBeaucaire · Mar 11, 2008, 04:35 PM

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Originally Posted by annsumm

Thank you. I have now realised that cool and laid back was his way of saying - nothing serious, bit of fun. My fault for not realising and tackling it earlier. I have told him that I am not happy with how things were going and want to call it a day and wished him all the best. He replied with 'ok, i understand and wish you all the best too'. Life goes on and next time I will be communicating what I want before i get in too deep !

Awesome. And later on, if you start mulling it over in your head again and start to get bothered by ANY OF IT, remind yourself that this was a successful relationship. You dated, discovered some incompatibilities and moved on...nobody got hurt.

Stay with that. Well done.

dupeasana · Mar 12, 2008, 03:20 AM

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Originally Posted by annsumm

Met a guy last October, we went on 5-6 dates and mutually agreed to take it a step further and slept together. We broke up after a couple more weeks (he got back with his ex). We then got back together about 6 weeks ago (yes I agreed to take him back). The other night I was round his place when i noticed on his laptop toolbar that he had visited Match.com. When I got home I searched match.com out of curiosity and he has a very recent profile on there and on several other dating sites. I phoned him and asked him what was the situation ? He replied 'well, i didn't think you wanted anything too heavy' ! For god's sake, I gave him a second go and we are sleeping together. Do i have the right to be annoyed and disappointed ?

I THINK HE MUST AHVE DONE THAT BEFORE U GET BK TOGETHER BUT IF U THEN SEE THAT HE STILL HAS NOT TAKEN HIMSELF OUT OF THE SITE, THAT MEANS HE HIS STILL TRYING TO PUT HIM SELF OUT THERE AND HE HIS NOT SATISFY WITH WHAT HE HAS GOT. I WILL ADVICE YOU NOT TO GET TOO COMFORTABLE WITH HIM BECAUSE PEOPLE LIKE THAT DONT REALISE WHAT THEY HAVE GOT UNTIL ITS TOO LATE.



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