We met 8 months ago, live together says were just friends

Fr_Chuck · Jun 5, 2010, 09:59 AM

Well you got there, are you sharing a bed, having sex, then he wants a buddy or friend with benefits and perhaps ability to still see others.

Perhaps he is not ready to commit but enjoys having someone there.

These questions were ones to ask before you moved in together, not 3 week after.

So make him sit down and explain where he is in the relationship. If not the answers you want, move out or move him out

realman71 · Jun 6, 2010, 03:56 PM

3 weeks girlfriend! Seriously! You guys never took the time to know each other so why would you expect him to even know for sure he wants you in that way. You are both just in a situatiion now and it's too late. If he is saying you are just friends than what does that tell you. My advice as a guy is this: Tell him to step up to the plate or you are gone. Do not wast another moment and put your future on hold for this. He may care about you but he is not saying the things he should say to a woman he really cares for and this will not last longterm. Save yourself a broken heart and start making the steps towards figuring this out very quickly and do what you know you have to do. You are not asking these questions for nothing on this web site. You knoew the answer so you have to love yourself more than what he is giving to you and fly like a bird!

talaniman · Jun 11, 2010, 07:06 AM

You mean you moved in before you talked about what was going on?

Thats crazy, you better find out what your doing, and why. Like NOW!

redhed35 · Jun 12, 2010, 02:42 AM

There was no time for the relationship to develop,you both moved too fast and now its burn out time.

Perhaps he has realised this and is either trying to get out of the relationship nicely,or its just convenient now,until something better comes along.

My advice,have an honest conversation about where you both are now and if its working for you both.

positiveparent · Jun 12, 2010, 07:27 PM

Seems you made yourself too easily available to him, moving in after 3 weeks is completely irresponsible, and with that for a foundation its not going to become a long term loving relationship.

Have some self respect, and leave or ask him to, not that you would have too much left by way of self respect after moving in with him so fast.

Love that lasts is slow to develop and matures with time.

rh34715 · Jun 2, 2011, 09:20 AM

I know sometimes that we think more with your emotions than our interlect. I think this is one of those situations. What you need to do is sit with this person and ask his intentions. You are not a person that he can ride or pretty much take advantage of because of you poor judgment. We all have those days. Clear the air and you really think about it and if you really think it is real keep him..and ifnot kick him out!1

We met 8 months ago, live together says were just friends

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