Hey everyone. :(
I', desprete, I finally found the girl of my dreams, and no one could ever take her place, and I'm attempted to end my life if she isn't in it. I knows I sound like afool, but it's just the way I feel. I tried going with other girls but I just can't do it, all I do is think about her, she broke up with me 3 days ago, and well my life been a nightmare since. And she still tells me that she needs space and we might end up back togethert but some reason I don't believe it. And what gets me more is she isn't telling me anything. I don't know wa to do, I lovbes this girl more than anything, and my life is a hell without her. And she won'ten to me. I just wish someone could tell herr how I feel.

Thank for you time

Leo :(

What happened my brother? What did you do wrong?

" just wish someone could tell herr how i feel." - I am sure you did 1000 times. WOman HATE that!! Don't tell her ever. SHow her how you feel.

Woman DON'T want wussies. You hear me? This is a part of your life you must get together now!! You will be happier. Believe me. She will love IF you understand this stuff.

1. Too available - always calling, e-mailing, texting? QUIT calling her!! Now!! She should have been calling you. Ok?

2. To clingy

3. "a nice guy"

4. Are you a 'nice guy' - were you too agreeable?

5. Too many compliments?

Listen - woman are people as well and you need to treat her like a person and NOT look up to her. You are the prize. Ok? Not her. That's just the way it is in Men/Woman relationships. They want a CHALLENGE!! Woman want to chase you!

YOU surrendered I am sure to her.

SHE IS NOT YOUR LIFE!! OK? Work is, school is, friends are, family, hobbies etc.

NO woman wants to be put on a pedistal. Ok? Her me?

You feel this way because you droped everything else in life.

You ALWAYS need to feel AND especially show that life goes on with or without her. She doesn't want this little puppy dog that you are.

Go to this website: www.sosuave.com and learn the RULES!! Go to www.askmen.com and read relationships. Read it ALL!! Go to www.love tactics.com and learn the rules!!

YOU have to change to get her back!! Understand??

How close were you? And what did you do wrong? She had an initial atraction to you and she 'felt' something - BUT, you probably feel into Wuss boy - right?

Woman want confident men!! Independent men. I think you may have fallen too early - that's why in dating it's best to go out with more than one woman - you Won't get emotionally attacjed too soon. Go slow!!

Woman want a best friend - treat her like your friend, bust her balls, dis-agree, create an argument with her - woman LOVE drama! treat at times like a kid step-sister or your mom. Woman DON'T want to be put on a pedistal.

They want a man who has out side activities, work, friends, family, workout, hobbies. You probably were too clingy and that's a huge red flag.

Was she really "Ms. Right"? Or just "Ms. Right Now?"

Hey was up look I was going threw the site and feel you because my boyfriend left me and he's the type that is hard headed and difficult he is also bipolar bnut I sat down and told him how I felt I couldn't live without him and it took him a couple of days but he finally gave me chance to prove to him I'm nothing without him you should show her how much she means to u

Anytime, I mean ANYTIME you start thinking about hurting yourself this is a BIG flag that you are in T R O U B LE! Depression is real. It is physiological and will not get better if you do not get some help. See a doctor immediately.

With that said, no other human being could stand up to the pressure of being the life support of another human being. I believe in God. And I believe that it is wrong to put someone or something in a place in our lives that really God should be. Your life is a gift and hopefully one day you will be able to see that. Speaking as a woman, if I was with a man that made me feel like his life literally revolved around me, I would be frightened truly. My desire is to be with a strong person, someone I could depend on in times of trouble. I want to be treated well by my man, but I would find him weak if he was not able to be strong and take care of business in my absence. Women need to be able to look up to and respect their partners, and if he was falling apart over me, I may stay but I cannot say that love and or respect would be a part of it, and I think that I would only stay for as long as it would take to make sure the person is okay and then I would want out. I would not want to be God in someone's life since I myself am so imperfect and if he is so busy obsessing over me and feeling sorry for himself what kind of support could he possibly be for me if I needed it?

I made the mistake of trying to complete myself through my relationships, and it has been a complete failure. I became a doormat for these men and looking back I don't blame them for not respecting me. It was not until I found my own self worth did my husband realize how valuable I am to him.

You have to refocus, and remember that you are valuable and have much to offer someone, if not this person someone else. Love yourself and please get some help now. Take care and God Bless you.

I agree - no one is your life. Get it - no one. They are part of your life and it's a small part of your life in the beginning. Yes it's cool to have a girl that likes you - but you needed to take it slow and COOL!

You need a life out side any girlfriend. Why on earth would one person be your life. You may hate them in 6 months.

School, work, hobbies, sports, friends, family, day to day life chores ALL come first - especially in the beginning of a relationship.

If you do this - she will not seem as important and she will love you more.

You shouldn't be so available.

I would go get some counseling today. If you a student - go see someone at your school to start with.

I feel what you are saying but my situation is much more than just trying to help when I first met the nigga he was a sweetheart and he told me he was bipolar but after I fell in love with him and all I wanted to do was help and with that I gave him everything he asked for and then we decided to be friends which I thought would be better two weeks later I found out I was having his kid and now I am 4 months pregnet and he's happy because he wanted a kid but then sometimes he be acting like an asshoe and I try to deal wit it but I haven't called him for a about a week and he hasn't called me either at this point I wish I hadn't slept with himcuz now I am pregnet and now I have to deal with him for the rest of my life he chaged so much since we met when he was taken his medication then we was on and off and when we was broke up he would threathen that he would kill himself if I didn't go with him I don't know I just wish he would at laest take his pils when he does he's OK but now that he doesn't live in independent living nobody makes him take his pills so its harder to get along wit him :(

Am sorry babymama. Can u do me a favour. Please ABORT THAT CHILD NOWW.pls am asking this on a right side
Please
1- your marriage is not going to work out ,
2-i mean that child is not going to have a dad trust me
3- that was so quick to get pregnant within two weeks time after meeting him.
4 lots of reasons but just abort that pregancy for the baby's sake I mean u are going to lose a lot than u could have if u aborted that babgby now.
Right now u will spend a few hundred dollars to carry out that abortion but if that's not the case, I mean u are going to spend lots of money making carving hell for that child I mean am now worried about the child
Sure that child is a result of your lack of resposibilty I mean that's a sign of carelessness that just too weird
I mean THAT CHILD IS NOT Going to SUFFER JUST CAUSE OF YOUR BEING TOO CARELESS AND LACK OF RESPOSIBLITY LIKE THAT.for any case that child hasn't committed any crime to be born in such a situation where by even right now it looks like he or she has no dad
Am not being racist here cause the dad is black u called him a ((niga)) are u OK? ((( sorry but am also black or niga what ever u call it))
Thanks

Hi,
I was divorced after 7 yrs of marriage with 2 small sons... talk about being there, done that. I though my life was over.
You know what? It wasn't.
Stop calling her, send her a card or flowers every once in a while.
Let her make the next move... if there is to be one.
If you continue trying to tell her how you feel, you probably won't have a chance with her.
Give her some time to miss you.
If she doesn't, give yourself some time.
Best wishes, and best of luck,
fredg

look the reson I called him a niga is because he is a dude a male I call every male a niga its slang and look I'm not abortin my child thanks for trying to help but u got problems if u think abortion is good and my child is going to have a father because he's going to ba there we just have a lot of problems to get over for the simple fact we r young I'm only 15 but believe me the last thing is abort my child have life in u is too buietiful to just letb go because it was a mistake the baby has nothing to do wit it. And I'm not racist because if I was I wouldve never the niga in the first place and u t= don't know much of my situatution to judge it

Babymama.
All right I donot want to make this some kind of thing to argue about ,I mean ,at first I did not know that u were only 15 , real am sorry cause I thought I was speaking to someone who would be able to understand what am talking about (( donot mistake me to be an old dad of sort of,am only 18))
Baby mama well iits up to you to decide I mean 15 is way to young to give birth to a child who has gat no Dad , I mean what if it was you, how woulld u like it when u were born without a dad, well in some cases it happens but not all times, u still have a chance to give that baby a dad , save him or her the hummilation she or him is going to go thorugh or birng him over in a world that u still new to yourself , I mean.
Sorry am I being to mean here? Sorry
Take care thanks.

Only a mature person can accept rejection. Give it time! Start dating someone else in the meantime. There's many fish in the ocean. Maybe she'll understand that she's not the only one!

HANK ;)

Don't really know how to post a new thread so I'm going to ask you people here because my question is very related to this thread.
I met a guy last month at a bar, we talked a little, and I went home.he got my phone no. from a friend and asked me out.it was wonderful the first time, and many times after that. He was so into this relationship,more than me.everything was just perfect, really, he even made me a gift a night before we broke up.
One day he stopped calling.. why? I do not know. More than that, I saw him a few weeks later at a bar, I was with a guy(he was just a friend,but he didn't knew that) and he completely ignored me. All his friends talked to me, but he didn't even look at me.
I'm so confused, I don't know what did I do?I just couldn't ask him when I saw him because I was shocked that he ignored me like that.
A friend of mine that used to know him suggested he might feel too many things for me and that's why he got scared.. but I think that's stupid.. what could have happened?

Ps:please excuse my english.

"he might feel too many things for me and that's why he got scared.."

It happens - it sounds like you guys went WAY to fast. The first couple of months in a new relationship you should take it slow and caucious. Seeing someone everyday is the kiss of death in a new relationship.

Here we go again - DO NOT SPEAK with them everyday in the beginning!! No text messaging, no e-mails, keep phone conversations short!! BE UNAVAILABLE!! This basic relationship 101.

Being too available is the kiss of death. You needed to be a challenge. LESS IS MORE!!

It seems like when you start a relationship that you should surrender to someone right away - but that is the exact opposite. You need other things in your life to keep you busy - work, school, hobbies, friends,

You really can never surrender to someone - AGAIN - 'People want what they can't have' - you always need some doubt in someone's mind to keep passion going.

These ARE NOT games. The are tried and true Psycological principles that must be followed.

I'd say max for the first few weeks see the person twice a week. Talk maybe 3 times. SHORT e-mails once a week. No text - text kils relationships. Go a few days without talking or returning calls.

You can get more amswers here by reading these articles: www.love-tactics.com - please learn these and you will be much happier.

thanks for replying
well.. the idea is that we didn't see each other too much in that month,maybe twice a week,phone calls were short, we were always in need for each other.. it was perfect.. I already told you that.
today happened what I was most afraid of. I saw him, I thought he would avoid me, so I didn't look at him.. guess what? He called me and he said "Hi! how are you doing?" he smiled..
I was shocked again and I answered. That was all. We continued our road like nothing happened. The thing is.. I think I was just a way to keep him busy.. he got bored eventually..
I wanted to say many things to him but I couldn't.. I'd probably seem stupid if I'd ask him what happened.. stupid and desperate.. and I do have an ego.
I'm very good friend with his older brother.. could I change this situation?
10x again