Ok, I know its unlikely and I know I need to move on and not hold on to hope. I will. But I want to hear from people who have gotten back together with an ex. What compelled him/her to come back to you?
It does not happen often, when it does it seems to end badly anyway. I know your not holding your breathe but sitting there hoping someone will fall in love with you is selling yourself real short. I'm sure there are plenty of people that will actually love you, you shouldn't have to hope someone will.
BMI: I know you are right, but I just cant get over this girl. And I am not sure how to proceed now. She wants to be friends after we have both had enough time to recover and she is uncertain of her decision. I know I must move on. I must. But its just tough. What makes it worse is that I was recently laid off, so I am just sitting around thinking about it.
BMI: I know you are right, but I just cant get over this girl. And I am not sure how to proceed now. She wants to be friends after we have both had enough time to recover and she is uncertain of her decision. I know I must move on. I must. But its just tough. What makes it worse is that I was recently laid off, so I am just sitting around thinking about it.
Welcome to my world man. I was laid off then a week latter dumped. Just stay as busy as you can.
Five years ago a girlfriend left me after being together for a year. She didn't have the same feelings for me anymore. I had always felt that she kept changing her mind about me during our relationship. She had become a flaky waffler. The breakup hurt bad.
Four months later I had gotten over her and moved on. I was dating again but wasn't seeing anyone promising. She called to meet for dinner and talk about things, and we did meet.
She wanted to get back into the relationship where we left off. I told her that I had moved on and was seeing other people, but was open to trying again with her. We got back together and dated for another 8 months but we were never on the same page about our relationship. She resented that I had been seeing other women even though she was the one who had initially left me. I was reluctant to trust her with my heart until she could prove her worth and she never did.
Eight months later she left me for another guy who was a little older and made more money and she was classless enough to tell me that money was the reason why she didn't want to see me again. I have to say that I was glad to see her go then but angry at myself for wasting another year with such an immature woman.
You have to let go. Open your heart to promising new outcomes.
Over two months ago my most recent gf left me after 1 1/2 years and it was sudden with no warning. I was devastated and filled with false hope of reuniting. The way I got through it with the least amount of pain was NC as much as possible. I resisted contacting her and she made no efforts to contact me. It helped me see for real that she wasn't in my life anymore because she had lost her feelings for me. As a result of closing that door and making myself available to new opportunities, I've been seeing a great new woman for a few weeks now and we have something new and wonderful together.
You have to find the opportunity to do better because of this and not look backwards at what wasn't going to be.
160fet: Wow! That is one of the greatest posts I have read on here. There is something really sincere and poignant about the way you write. My relationship with this girl sounds similar to your first relationship that you described (1 yr together and she seems to flip-flop about whether she loves me.)
I know there are others and I am starting to get a little excited about the prospect of dating and falling in love again. So I think I am moving on...
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