Ok first off guys and gals. dont get angry with me

im not shallow, im trying to break the habit of that! because i found out that 90% of the time people im normally with are insanely hot but insane!

ok so im a 26 year old. attritive guy. i always went with the most popular girls in school and the best looking girls in the work place. it was my thing. envy of my friends. but i found that this life is pretty empty

anyway if had some fun times as of late.

and im with this new girl. she chased me a lot. so i thought why not ill give it a go. and i think i found someone i can really connect with on a personal level. and i must say i really really like it.

but she knows the type of girls iv been with and. she goes why are you with me when you could be with the .. Pretty.. types. i told her that its not that important.

now she isnt ugly by no sens. but she isnt that typ of girl i would go for. now before people start saying dont be with her then if you dont think she is pretty or your type, im trying to break a habbit, and i like being with this girl..
but heres the thing.
is it wrong to want to make her more pretty? like have her workout in the gym with me. and get ya hair done etc?

she knows what im like. vain and shallow but i am trying to change i dont think someone who is like that. would be on a site like this.

do you think this is wrong?

as i said girls and guys dont get to angry with me about this post. it shows im growing up and looking for something more than just a hot chick.


Regards

ISneezeFunny

no you're not. you're not looking for a hot chick. you found a not-so-hot chick and you're trying to turn her into a hot chick.

there's nothing wrong with wanting for your girl to get some exercise/get her hair done (in my opinion)...but by the way you're talking about it, you're making it seem like you're too good looking for her.

if she wanted to look different, she would have done it already. she seems to be happy the way she is. you should be too.

dating a girl isn't a way to "break a habit"...

i'd write a post under mine frantically apologizing to the women on this site that'll bury you alive. sorry dude.

J_9

Hold on for a rollercoaster ride, with an explanation at the end.

If you aren't shallow, then why should you have to break the habit. Apparently you ARE shallow and you know it.

And you are one of the 10% who is "normal?" Oh, yeah, Hot Normal. LMAO, gimme a break.

Yup, pretty empty to be sure. You know why? You can't fit a bunch of people in a shallow pit.

Wow, you spoke volumes here, you may just be digging yourself out of the shallow pit you were in.


Yes, it's wrong. On many levels. Do you want her to change you?

You can never change a person, only they can change themselves when and if they so choose.

Now, here is where I get serious.

You are a very vain and shallow person, you already know that, so this is nothing new to you. But beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Beauty may be looks, they fade....breasts sag, bottoms go flat, gravity runs it's course.

However, intelligence grows. From reading your posts you place more importance on your looks and what kind of beauty that you date versus intelligent you are, because you are definitely not intelligent. Sorry to be so blunt, and I'm sure to get a reddie here, but I don't care.

Personally, if I were a hot beauty, the kind you are attracted to, I wouldn't date you because you can't spell, your grammar is terrible, and your punctuation is atrocious. And, yes, that is shallow too, but what is beautiful to one, is horrific to another. You have to take the good with the bad, the ying with the yang.

Beauty runs skin deep.....

Wondergirl

Oh, mama! You took the words right out of my mouth! Looks like he has a bit of work to do on himself before he starts trying to fix up anyone else.

J_9

I have to spread the love WG, but, if I were not married, I would never date a man, gorgeous or not, who was not my intellectual equal.

Wondergirl

J_9, I couldn't rate you either, so I supported your comment the only way I could.

Delow84

If your not attracted to someone, then that can't be helped. But to demand or even just to ask them to change for you is wrong. Like previously stated, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. If you care about her, care about who she IS, not who you want her to be.

There really isn't much I could say that hasn't been said already. You are shallow, and admitted as much. Work on yourself, don't make others feel like they have to be a certain way for you.

TrueFaith

Ouch well thank you guys for your reply im sorry if upset anyone i really didnt wanna do that. i know i am shallow and i am just trying to make a change. i guess its wrong what i wanted. im still going to try and change though sorry to have upset you J.9

and J.9 if you were a hot babe...babe. you would date me coz thats the typ of people they are turned on by. thats why i wanted to change my patterns.

As for my spelling and gramma, im still learning english Danks/english

i wont go over my good points on here but we have my bad points out in the open. now can someone please tell me how to fix this

and not tell me what i already know. and not how they wont date me coz im shallow or. cant spell. or this and that.. lala.

I do know i have to work on my self! any tips for that

Hope to get a reply from someone that dosnt think im attacking them coz there a bit fat or a bit skinny old or whatever





thanks for the reply guys

any more advice would be idea

Regards

rockerchick_682

You come off as really full of yourself. I'll tell you right now, your relationship isn't going to work if you sit there and think about how you want to make her better looking all the time and if she's going to always wonder whether she's good enough or not. Don't go out with her for your benefit, to change yourself, go out with her because you're attracted to to her. Whether its her humor, personality or looks. Everyone comes in a package.

Personally, I wouldn't want to be with a guy because he wanted to "give it a go."

It is nice that you care about her on a personal level, but I'm still turned off by you.

....and it's "attractive"

TrueFaith

Thank you Rocker. of course you are turned off im probable going to anger a lot of people out there.
. but thankful this is a place where you can post what you think and how you feel.

i dont come off this way in the real world dont worrie. other wize yeah id never get anyone

and a reply like yours is very good and is the best advice i got