Ok first off guys and gals. dont get angry with me

im not shallow, im trying to break the habit of that! because i found out that 90% of the time people im normally with are insanely hot but insane!

ok so im a 26 year old. attritive guy. i always went with the most popular girls in school and the best looking girls in the work place. it was my thing. envy of my friends. but i found that this life is pretty empty

anyway if had some fun times as of late.

and im with this new girl. she chased me a lot. so i thought why not ill give it a go. and i think i found someone i can really connect with on a personal level. and i must say i really really like it.

but she knows the type of girls iv been with and. she goes why are you with me when you could be with the .. Pretty.. types. i told her that its not that important.

now she isnt ugly by no sens. but she isnt that typ of girl i would go for. now before people start saying dont be with her then if you dont think she is pretty or your type, im trying to break a habbit, and i like being with this girl..
but heres the thing.
is it wrong to want to make her more pretty? like have her workout in the gym with me. and get ya hair done etc?

she knows what im like. vain and shallow but i am trying to change i dont think someone who is like that. would be on a site like this.

do you think this is wrong?

as i said girls and guys dont get to angry with me about this post. it shows im growing up and looking for something more than just a hot chick.


Regards

kp2171

the level of political correctness here just has me stunned.

as a person in a long term relationship (10 yrs, 8 married) i do NOT disagree with the fact that flesh alone keeps things interesting for only a short time. yes, most people need more than a good lay or a pretty face or a chiseled chest to make it last.

but really... id ask all who have spanked your hand repeatedly about physical attraction to do the following:

1) dont wear makeup. it is a practice that shows you are too shallow and vain to be comfortable in your own body. no hair dyes either.

2) throw out those sexy clothes, panties, and bras. you know sweatpants are more comfy, so why play into the game of teasing others when you arent willing to let others be pleased by physical attraction?

3) blindfold yourself on dates. apparently physical attraction is the work of the devil, so own up to it. tell me that a guy who hasnt showered in two weeks will attract you because he has inner beauty. try not to gag when you answer.

i am NOT saying that physical attraction is all there is... but come on... this guy signed on to a site for help. he obviously might have some issues about bragging how pretty he is, but really??? that makes him garbage?

most people are attracted to potential mates by a variety of factors... but those who condemn a person for the physical side should own up and throw their push up bras and their face moisturizers in the trash.

if you pluck your eyebrows, wax your 'stache, shave your legs and arms, you are also tied into physical obsession... its just HIS level is icky and yours is ok.

ok.

bring on the reddies.

kp2171

Synnen agrees: Wow. I actually kind of feel bad for shaving, wearing makeup, and having a couple sexy outfits. Good thing I haven't combed my hair today and I'm wearing sweats now to make up for it!

you are naughty and it always makes me laugh!

seriously, what color are the sweats? zipper top? dont be a tease.

TrueFaith

Well guys just to let you know i have spoken with her. i made it very clear about my feelings which is. i love being round her. i told her that she sint the typ of person i normaly go out with. and i know im not the typ of boy she normaly goes out with

having said that we are both going to try and make it work. she knows my feelings. she said she will do whatever it takes to make me happy. and i really like that, i told her the same thing

as i said she understands im kinda vain and that. she knows its not the best but she loves me anyway how abou that.

as for The people here who gave me abuse. Thanks for reply wasnt the best but hey.
i like to think we can all post how we feel and think. and not get judge to harshly but hey im into looks apprantly and your into guys that. well says all the flower typ stuff in movies yay to that!

Thank you KP very good points thats my view.

as to the rest.
i know looks are not the most important thing but its really nice to have both isnt it?


Regards

Synnen

Sweats come in colors other than gray?

and nope on the zipper top---it's COLD in Minnesota! I think I have 4 layers on, and none of them is metal, which would be cold. Duh.

kp2171

well more layers are more to peel off one by one...

and cold weather makes you want to snuggle boys for heat when those layers are gone, so its all good near as i can tell.

im tired and off topic. sort of. done.

mlbiscuit

Be careful what you wish for. I encouraged my guy to change his outside even though I loved him for what was inside and that changed everything. He got hit on all the time and it went to his head. Turned out changing what was inside to a superficial jerk who got hooked on shallow come ons. I wish I would have been happy with the man I met because now noone is happy.

Gloriouss

Great

little firefly

I think there is a big difference between being vain and just feeling good about how you look. I wear makeup when i go out (i'm very pale and look horrible without it), I have what might be considered sexy clothes (I have terrible self esteem issues and wearing things that look attractive makes me feel better about myself). I'm not young (37), and i'm not a size 2 (more like a 12). I'm my own worst enemy. I think it's great to be able to take pride in yourself, but when you think you are the be all end all and that no plain jane could possibly measure up to you then i have a problem with that.

My ex husband is a pretty good looking guy. He was always being hit on. The day that he married me i weighed 310 pounds. I didn't feel i was good enough for him but he loved me as i was. When i lost the weight i was doing it for myself, not for him, and he was supportive of me no matter what.

Gloriouss

Then why is he ur ex-hubby?

little firefly

After 15 years of marriage we just found ourselves going in different directions. Too many things started to happen at one time that drove a wedge between us. He's still a big part of my life though and one of my best friends.