my boyfriend just broke up with me about a week ago. we were living together for over a year and had been dating for 3 years. he said he broke up with me because of my mood swings, and not being an independent person. he said he wanted me to find things to do on my own too and i never really let him go out and do his own thing, or would always call and check on him. i have some axiety problems to and i think he was getting tired of it. he said he still is my friend. i dont want to be friends i want to be lovers again. i dont know what the future holds for us. im trying to give him his space but its hard. im trying to stay offline and not email him to much. people say to try and make him miss me. i dont know what to do but im soo crushed over this whole thing. i have lost weight, dont eat much anymore. i just want to be back with him. i love him so much. if anyone can give me some tips that would be great. thanks for all your help.

zooropa1985

first off thanks for not giving me a red, for that you get a smile

yes some people get back together but that doesnt mean you sit around waiting for him/her to call or to expect it to happen, if i were you (and i was months ago and i shoulda done this then) then i would start afresh, try and get over him and not expect hm to call, in fact expect him NOT to call and expect NOT to get back together.

I did the whole "she needs time" thing too and you know where it got me? no where, infact it took seeing her with her ex to really kick me up the and now im better.

Face facts that it is over

Nicole98

Give him his time, don't call him let him miss you and if it is meant to be he will come around.

Suelle383

Zooropa - Wait a minute. So your ex got back together with her previous ex??? What a tangled web.

zooropa1985

well i dont know if they GOT back together but they were together when i saw them.

Ironic thing is she dumped me cause i was gettin too much like him lol oh and she told me she hated him all the time, something tells me shes saying that bout me now

redaphid

strangely, a similar thing seems to be happening to me. My Gf of 3 years is now back with her ex (before me, went out for 4 months). She always said she hated/was scared of him, too, and now she sends him emails saying how much she loves him. After 3 weeks of us being separated. This guys an obsessive creep, and this relationship can't last. Am I stupid to think she just got cold feet moving in with me after not seeing me for 2 months? Do I have any chance at all?

brookeleigh

I think you should make him miss you! agree with the friends. get in shape, or even date different men! he'll miss you sooner or later.

traveler79

I am in the same boat. Sorry to hear about your relationship. Keep busy. Find things that make you happy and don't give you any time to thing about him. Learn something new and active. Also be constructive. If he said he didn't like your mood swings and you said you have anxiety and trust issues, work on them. Get help or counciling if needed. That way you can show him you have worked on your issues and you are a stronger person and maybe he will give it another shot. If not at least you have fixed your issues so when you are ready to move on and find love again you won't run into the same problem. Good luck. I hope it works out for you.