I dumped my boyfriend because I couldn't handle his high sex drive, his humour side that just wasn't funny, the image he liked to think he had, the way we had little communication.

Now he is begging my saying he loved me, I'm his everything, and that I'm not being fair, he begging for a another chance, to take things slow, start from the beginning. I have a feeling some of what he is saying is emotional blackmail, as it does break my heart what he's saying, it makes me think maybe he really does love me, but my head is that messed up I miss him like crazy, but when I think back to what we had I wouldn't really want to be back in that situation again, but I feel it is only fair if I give him another chance! I would probably loose my friends as they think he is pyscho and crazy but I do miss him, unless its just the attention (but in a way he is still giving me that by begging and pleading)

Everything would have to chance if I gave him another chance, but why bother?

Help?

A person is in control of their own happiness. You weren't happy, so you made a decision to get out. Don't go back to him just because he claims he isn't happy without you.

A little background on the situation? While I always believe in second chances for certain reasons only, you could always give it time(which is what I wished my ex would have gave me) to prove that he can change, don't think it will be 2 weeks and then everything is fine, I'm talking at least a month. See how you are then. If it's really love, too many people throw it away at the drop of a hat nowadays and then regret comes in later but people are too stubborn to admit they made a mistake that it costs them. I think you should at least talk to him, maybe write down the things that you wish he could change and go from there

Stop contacting him, and listenening to his crap, as it sounds too late, and do you honestly think he will change? Or know what to change? Stop letting him contact you, and let that be his hint to leave you alone.

I agree to an extent Tal, but sometimes people do need a eye awakening event to realize what they are doing is completely wrong. Granted it shouldn't be used as an excuse if the person needs to change more than a few things, but if it's one thing, sometimes the person thinks they are doing the right thing. Did you ever tell him before you ended it what was going wrong?

Let me ask you this: Was he a bad boyfriend? Did he treat you badly? Was he insensitive to your feelings? Did he ever insult you? Was he for the most part a jerk?

I think if you answered yes to these questions then you should tell this guy to stay out of your life. However, if for the greater part of your relationship he was a good boyfriend to you who treated you right and made you feel good about yourself then I think it wouldn't hurt to give him a second chance AFTER you two have discussed the problems with the relationship.

One thing we all need to realize is that our partners (girlfriends and boyfriends) are human and they make mistakes. This fact shouldn't allow us to blindly allow people to have second chances when its clear it will only create more harm then good. Yet when its obvious that the person is a good individual who has shown it in the past through good deeds and character then I think second chances are fair.

OK, I can understand your problem. But I would like to tell you that everything can be sorted out with love. If this will be the case of your husband then what will you do? Its not with a one man . Most of the guys are like this. :rolleyes: I should say you that you should leave him and find a good life partner and please don't be emotional because girls are always emotional. You can change your husband not a boyfriend. They remain same. So be bold and always think about the bad things he had done with you so u can hate him and throw him out of your life. Love yourself, be crazy about yourself. Be a boyfrnd of yourself and I must say that you should take advice of your mother she will guide you and support u. be frank tell her everything she will be your best friend. I always take advice frm my mother. If you are emotional not practicle you can not get out of these relationships and if you are practicle you cn not fulfill relationships. So better is be practicle . Because if relationships bother you then brk that relationship rather to destroy your mind. Be yourself. Khud ko pyar karo yaar fir dekhna ye life kitni haseen hai.
THROW HIM OUT OF UR LIFE.
ITS MY OWN EXPERIENCE DEAR. :)
THROW HIM OUT,THROW HIM OUT,THROW HIM OUT,THROW HIM OUT,THROW HIM OUT,THROW HIM OUT,THROW HIM OUT,THROW HIM OUT,THROW HIM OUT,THROW HIM OUT,THROW HIM OUT,THROW HIM OUT,THROW HIM OUT,THROW HIM OUT,
U WILL FEEL RELAX.
LOVE Yourself ONLY, LOVE Yourself ONLY, LOVE Yourself ONLY, LOVE Yourself ONLY, LOVE Yourself ONLY, LOVE Yourself ONLY, LOVE Yourself ONLY, LOVE Yourself ONLY, LOVE Yourself ONLY, LOVE Yourself ONLY, LOVE Yourself ONLY, LOVE Yourself ONLY,
Don't MAKE ANY BOYFRND, ND Don't DISCUSS UR MATTER WITH MANY Friends.
REMEMBER ONE THING:
IF SMONE DOESN'T RESPECT U , Don't RESPECT HIM WHOLE LIFE.

Well if youtink you love him go back with him and tell him if you didn't change nomore chances... but if you don't want to loss your friends go on with out him there's more boys...