Okay, so I went to Greece a month ago, and met two guys there that I really like. The first one (M) was our waiter and was always very sweet. He was always smiling and looking at me, and we saw each other nearly every day. We never really hung out officially though. I did see him at a party we were at, but I was trapped by another guy who wouldn't leave me alone, so we didn't get to hang out. He did keep looking over at me, and the guy though, and it seemed as if he wanted to hang out with me, as much as I wanted to hang out with him.

I didn't develop any feelings toward him until the end of the trip. I was walking past his work, and he ran out to say hello, and I told him I was leaving that day, and he seemed genuinely sad. I told him I wanted to come back next summer for longer, and he told me he would love that and that if I wanted he would help me find a job, and gave me his name so I could find him on Facebook. Right before I left he gave me a big hug, and kissed me very sweetly on each cheek. I exchanged just a couple of messages (about 4 or so) with him on Facebook, but they perplexed me. Part of them seemed flirty, but then he said at one point "take care," which seemed kind of final to me? He also found, and tagged a picture of me that someone he knew had taken (which I thought he had to be actually looking for, and therefore was into me?), but when I asked him where he got it, he never responded. I am too proud to message him again, so I left it alone, but I would really like much to talk to him still!

The second guy (N) I met while we were out one night. We only talked briefly because I was with friends, so I kept walking away from him, but he is from the states (only 2 hours away from where I live), he just spends the summers in Greece with his family. Before he left that night, he came and found me and told me to find him on Facebook as well so we could keep in contact, and maybe hang out back here after the summer. He is very different from M. He is very very good looking, and he knows it. Part of me thinks that he is a player, firstly because he is the type of guy who the girls flock to and I think he eats it up, and secondly, because he was pretty forward one of the times we were talking.

He messaged me the first two times we talked, and I messaged him the third. I have a lot of fun talking with him and would like to see him over the next year, but I am not interested in being just another conquest in a string of many. I could be unfairly characterizing him though, I have no proof that he is in fact a womanizer.

The bottom line is, I really like both of them, and I would really like to keep in contact with them. The problem is that I am too proud to be the one to message THEM. I am afraid of losing control and/or appearing desperate or something like that. I am going back to Greece next summer, which is part of the reason staying in touch means so much to me. Because I CAN see them again, and I want to. I am just very lost, and confused, and no one seems to be able to give me any helpful advice. My friends just tend to look at me like I am crazy, but it's really hard to describe a connection. Can I get a little help?


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How old are you?

Why allow yourself to be lost and confused over things that haven't happened?

You have a choice-you either bite the bullet and send them messages or you don't.

If they don't get in touch then,fine-end of.

Live in the here and now rather than hanging your hopes on a holiday that is a year away.

There is no connection at the moment. It is too early regarding both the guys to say anything. So, you are going to Greece again right? Get to know the waiter person better. And get to know this second guy more too. No rushing.
Btw, when you say that you are too proud to be the one to message them, does it mean that they do not initiate any contacts?

Unfortunately, you have to get over yourself about seeming desperate. Just contact them when you feel like it or when you have something to say. It doesn't seem like you know any of them well enough anyway, so just keep getting to know them and keep in touch.

In time, one guy will naturally come out on top because you would be much closer to them. The closer you are to a person, the better you can feel how much you really like them.

I don't understand why people worry about seeming desperate when it comes to testing the waters with someone. I definitely used to be that way though. The way I see it now: If I have something to say to someone, I say it. If they don't get back in touch with me, then it's a pretty clear that they're not into it. That's fine, move along.

Since you're single, young, and travelling around the world... don't bank all of your feelings on interactions with two guys. Just give them a "How is it going?" if you want to, and move along to something else. The only way you'll sound desperate is if you ARE desperate. You avoid being desperate by being what you are: young, single, and adventurous. Being yourself will not only make you the opposite of desperate, it will make you all the more attractive.

Just relax, you're thinking waaaay too hard about two guys you hardly know. If it's going to happen, it'll happen. You've given them every opportunity to step up to the plate, now leave it at that.

Keep it casual and friendly and get to know them both, and don't be so caught up in two guys you bumped into on an exotic vacation you miss other options, and opportunities where you are. You're young, and single, enjoy it all.