Communication is KING!!

So today is valentines day. Big day for couples.

Guys: Women use this day to reflect on their relationship and figure out where it stands. You better be in good standing! Women are evaluting the relationship - seriously - almost should I stay or should I go?

Write a personal NICE note telling her how you feel! And why you like her (if you've dayed for a while - not early on daters)!! That's really what she wants!! And for you to LISTEN to her. She just wants to spend time with - and a nice dinner works along with this.

Women: guys think this is a day to impress you - fancy dinners, presents, flowers. Guys DO NOT get Valentines day at all.

EVERYONE: Communication is king!! Talk. LEARN to listen - I mean really listen. ZIP that trap up whne the other person is talking. Remove 'interuption' from your life - plus it's really rude!!

Learn to listen!! Talk learn to express to your loved one things that annoy and figure a way to work around it.

Listen!! Really listen.

Then tell your loved on how you FEEL about things.

Today can be a great day to learn new communication skills. If you don't communicate well your relationship is doomed.

I do advise at least once a week to sit - NO TV - NO DISTRATIONS - and talk!! Talk!! About what's going in their lives - things you taKE FOR GRANTED - get things off your chest.

DID I SAY LEARN TO LISTEN??

Mine is out of town but I already called him and sang a Valentine's song to him. He really digs stuff like that. LOL

What did you sing? Which cheesy love song?

Wildcat... did you say something? I wasnt' listening! ;)

We have date night in our house. Wednesdays, every week. We make dinner together, or go out to dinner, and then we watch "Lost". Conversation lasts all evening, from when we get home from work, through making dinner, and during commercials.

Setting aside Wednesdays for each other, no exceptions, has been great for our relationship. We talk about anything and everything.

PS... he gets a card for Valentines, and so do I, but we agreed a long time ago that we don't need to spend money we don't really have on cheesy presents we won't even care that much about a year down the road.

WoW! That's great so important!! Date night. Talking. Not spending a lot on this day. Way to go!!

Guys - it's not about the money - and if it is - you're with the wrong person.

My wife will spend a half day at the spa courtesy of hubby. With 2 young kids it's the best thing she could receive - a little 'her' time.

LOL The cheesiest I could find, Wildcat, since forturnately for me the only thing bigger than this man's amazing heart, is his sense of humor! ;)
(Actually I write my own songs--- private audience only stuff LOL so nothing you would recognise.)

You need to share Val!!

NeedKarma - good stuff!! Way to go. Earned lots of points there!!

I agree so much about the date night. The time in the week when it is just the two of you.

My ex and I had that and it was great. We wre both busy people going to uni, working full time, playing sport etc etc. but once a week (Thursday usually) we would just go and do something together. A nice place for dinner, or even just some fish and chips and sit by the beach.

It was the best time of the week and I know we both loved it.

I can't agree more about how much it is important to have that time to talk.

And your also right about Valentines day. Men just Don't GET IT! Here in Oz we have it and some people take it to extremes but it isn't much of a day. It isn't what you would say a "typical" aussie males favorite day of the year. We aren't the soppy romantic type (although we are capable of it, we just don't know why it has to be on the 14th of Feb), but the best thing about that is our women know that and they love us the way we are!

Earlier I was in Publix the local supermarket chain down here and you should have seen all the guys with there heads down buying Valentine's day stuff. It was great for me this year cause I was just buying milk and OJ and no Valentine's day stuff but watching those guys that were was hilarious. For all the big game that men talk it's like we never want to admit that truly care or at least show it in public so when you see all these men holding flowers, cards, candy, stuffed animals, etc. and they are all looking down at the ground and not looking anybody in the eye it's pretty funny. It's like all men are collectively saying, "Yeah......um...............yeah.........I........ .um am buying this for the wife or girlfriend because...............um...............you know...........I care." Sometimes it's great to be single on Valentine's day!

I am spending Valentine's day here with you all. I've ordered the Wacky Wednesday special from Hungry Howie's and am enjoying the Italian meal quite nicely. This gourmet meal is something the Italian's call "pizza." If you ever get the chance you should try it sometime.

I'm not sure if I'm allowed to share this but I do have a special someone who said she would be my special Valentine. She's probably sleeping right now as we are in different time zones but all in all... Not a bad day.

So all you need now is your green box and Valentines day will be complete for the Chuff man!

chuff agrees: It's really hard to determine what you mean but yet you sound like you know what your talking about.

Your signature!

What do you want for Valentines day?? It sounded like you got one half of it, so now all you need is the other half of it!

Get me??

I got you. I was just trying not to make it obvious for everyone else!!

Sorry!! Put my foot in it again! Skell is the master of that!
LOL! ;)

Does guy actually take pride in like impressing their partner or compete with other guy to show their love? (I'm talking about guys that are in like early 20's)

I was talking to my friend, and this is what he did for his crush:

He bought the girl a bouquet that covers like half of his body and heart shape chocolate. He waited outside of her lecture room for 30 minutes, because he didn't want to be late. And then gave the stuff to her.

I was talking to him on msn. He seemed pretty proud of what he did, because a lot of people that passed by in the hall was impressed. Although it WAS quite embarrassing to be holding the flowers. But then he said "I got own by another guy."

So apparently another guy did this for some other girl:

Went into a lecture room filled with 100 or so people. Borrowed the microphone from the professor and sang a love song. He was also holding a big bouquet. He then walked to the girl, and gave her the flowers. The girl was so embarrassed that she pretended not to know him. LOL

Anyway. Just htought I'll share...

Chuff... sometimes it just better to be a lone - reflect - improve - do things differently -work on yourself - and realize YOU MUST love yourself first!!

Kaitou - that all sounds like WAY TOO MUCH - DOWN RIGHT CREEPY. Makes a girl go Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww. Your interest leve lshould always be lower than theirs.

Oh yeah I agree. Yesterday was just fine for me. I was happy to watch everybody else and enjoy the specitcle that was. I actually could have gone to the store and just watched for hours, all those guys with there heads down, in such a little confined isle pretending to know what to get for hours. In a way it was kind of weird but funny to watch. To put it bluntly it was a sausage fest in this short supermarket isle and not one guy seemed to know what he was doing. It was quite funny but that being said, I know I've been there in the past.

But I agree and next year or sometime down the road I'll be a much stronger and more educated man on Valentine's day.