Hey,
Its been a while since i posted my miserable situation, and now i find myself here again asking for an opinion.Oh, by the way... SPECIAL, SPECIAL thanks goes to foreverzero, i swear i would've died without your help. Anyways, here's last months post of my sad situation.
http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relatio...how-63990.html
So, after getting dumped over a month ago i decided to go no contact. I decided to go no contact since begging, pleading and crying obviously didnt work anymore. The first day, i felt like someone just shot me and time froze for hours at a time. Didn't feel like eating, thinking, let alone just standing up. Ill be honest, and say that time really made it better.
So two weeks passed, and i decided to contact her. We talked, although she seemed really pissed off at the time. Ignored me for the most part when we went out. I attempted to show her i changed, but i reverted back to "clingy boy" and stupidly asked for her back. She rejected me again, and i was back to stage 1. Feeling extremely pissed off, i packed all her stuff, went to her house the next day, and told her never to call, text, email, or even think about me. I told her that she was dead to me, as i left pissed off.
I thought it was over, but less than half an hour later, i get several missed calls and txt msg's asking me to call her. We talked for the next couple of days, she apologized but stayed firm on her decision. She then changed from "we don't have a chance" to "we have a chance". I told her that i couldn't wait for her forever.
So lately, shes been really nice to me. She's been calling every couple of days. She tells me all the time that she misses me, and wants to be with me. But she also tells me, that she just wants to be friends first and that she wants to take it "slow". She says that the only reason she can't get back together right now, is because she doesnt feel like she has feelings for me and that she's not sure if she likes me. It's hard because she always says "if we get back together we'd do this, we'd do that, blah blah". We also have so much fun when we go out. She admitted that her life has been miserable without me, and that shes jealous that im out there enjoying my life and seeing other girls. She also said that she probably wont find anyone better, and that she misses everything we did.
For a while i thought she was just using me as a security blanket or plan B, but i ruled that out. That's because she keeps encouring me to go see other girls, and since the break up, she rarely even goes out. She' stayed at home, and didnt even talk to friends. Guys have been hitting on her but she turned them all down. She's been avoiding guys from coming close to her since our break up.
I try not to show her that she has control over my heart. I act neutral for the most part. I still make her laugh, flirt with her, and all that. I never bring up and relationship, and for the most part, i try to make myself unavailable, by not picking up every call, and not replying to every text. This helped because, she feels less pressure, and is comfortable to talk to me.
Last night, she almost got back with me. Surprisingly enough, i told her to take her time. She agreed and said that we should take it slow, be friends first before we rush into getting back together. She says that shes just too confused right now. The only thing preventing us from getting back together is the fact that she doesnt know if she still has feelings for me.
So now what? My friends are telling me to keep doing what im doing, and she'll eventually come around. Should i play hard to get, since shes interested? I won't take her back unless shes changed, and unless she WANTS to make it work.
If i act like i dont care, play hard to get, show her i changed, be confident and all that... will she come around? If this does work, does anyone have any advice on "winning" her heart back? What should i do at this point, to maximize my chances of getting her back
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Thanks for reading. Peace out guys.
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