really like two ofmy ex boyfriends one i think hates me well he tells me he likes me and stuff but hes only mentioned me giving him head and i said no then he asked if we could be friends with benefits thats wat we were before we didnt have a cometment but all we did was makeout and cuddle but we still didnt see other ppl but we never did make a cometmentso ya i think his idea of friends with benifts is diff than most guys and he told me he loved me all the time but then we got in this fight and he thought i lied to him but i didnt and stuff like that but ya now hes telling me he still likes me and i donno wt to do and then the 2nd guy has a date this weekend and we brokeup cuz he said i wasnt his type witch i totally respect but i still like him and i told him so he knows and we are still friends.....is there anyway you guys could help i need advice on wat to do and how to get one of these guys back or make them jelouse or something please help i love them so much

PrettyLady

Your ex boyfriends sound like jerks. You are better off without them, they will strip you of your self worth if you continue to see them. Move on with your life, hang out with your friends, and get involve with school activities. Your young, you will meet a lot of guys in your time, and you will find a guy that treats you right.

DJ 'H'

Neither one of this guys sounds worth it. They really don't deserve you. You may want one of them but probably because you don't want to be on your own and you may enjoy the attention they give you every so often. (i was like that when I was younger). But they only want you on their terms. They are using you as if you were a toy. They will play with you when they want to and throwyou back in the cupboard when they are board.

Don't let these guys do this to you - they will only mess your head up. Get out there and enjoy life as you should - a nice guy will come along when you least expect it.

fredg

Hi,
I agree with the other two answers you have received.
These guys are only "using you".
I know that really liking someone is hard when they don't respect you, but you have to meet some new boys.
Please don't talk with these two boys, don't communicate with them at all.
Meet some new boys, and talking with them will really help forget about these other two.
I do wish you the best of luck.

talaniman

Leave all the guys alone till you get your head together about what you want and need in life or you will find yourself messin' with nothing but jerks.Leave the games alone they only hurt people and tend to backfire,good guys hate games. good luck.

Chery

Sorry to burst your bubble, but you don't 'love' them. You are at an age where you think it's cool to have someone, just because everyone else is supposed to and it's just lust, experimentation in newly found sexuality. So, you get passed from one to the other and the only ones that win are them, not you. You need a little self-respect even if it's not the 'in' thing in your surroundings right now, but if you don't gather yourself and reflect upon what you are doing now, you will really hate yourself when you do find the right partner and are too messed up to notice it because you did not give yourself a chance to get to know the real you and what you really want. You are just a toy to those jerks right now, and you know what you did with your old toys as a kid - they wound up in a corner or in the trash. This should not happen to a human being - but your are being treated as such, so stop following the 'crowd' now before it's too late and plan for a healthy independant future, start liking yourself more, and when satisfied in this way, you will be ready to share some prime time and happiness with someone who respects you. Take a serious look inside, and good luck. No more games, please.
Take a real good look into the future before it's too late.

Fr_Chuck

No committments no "benifits" you are merely accepted a much lower relationship for sexual pleasures.

There are plenty of great people who will want to just like you and be a boyfriend and not except all sorts of "benifits" they want the relationship for the sake of the relationshiop.

Start just saying NO, all the time, this will weed out real friends from those that are finding sex without having to pay for it on the street.

Jesushelper76

I agree with other peoples advice. One comment I would make is that you mentioned how you would like to make them jealous because you want one of them back. Jealousy is not something to play with, do not play that game. Leave them both alone and move on.

Joe