What do you do when your married and attracted to a married person that is attracted to you, however that person is very brave and makes moves and others see it.

LBP

Get involved in a really effed up situaton that explodes in everyone's face?

Or avoid it entirely.

chuff

You realize that the other person is not brave as you decscribe but incredibly stupid and untrustworthy.

Skell

You stay away from that person and work on your relationship with your husband.

Surely that is pretty clear. Did you really need to be told that or did you hope to hear someone advise you to take a chance with your married friend and see what it leads to?

If you did then dont expect to hear that from anyone hear.
We are into helping relationships, not breaking marriages.

Please be faithful to your husband and stay away from this person. The grass isn't as green as you think over there!

shygrneyzs

The other married person who is making the moves would not make the moves if not encouraged or not told to knock it off!

Which is more important to you? Your marriage or this flirtation?

tayaa24

I am a very friendly person, however I have not made any moves and are hardly rude to anyone, I know of this attraction with this fellow however I love my husband and would never make a move, I feel it is okay to have an attraction for someone as long as I don't act on it, that is human nature. I would never allow it to go that far.

Nosnosna

Having and recognizing an attraction are ok, yes. But it sounds like the other person here is acting on that attraction. Remember that not saying no is often taken to mean the same thing as saying yes.

You need to confront this other person and tell them that what they're doing is inappropriate. If you don't, and these moves keep being seen, then people will start to talk, and talk will get back around to your husband, and that's a rough place to end up just because having an attraction is ok.

Edit to add: The above is if this other person is a coworker or someone else you have to be around. If it's somebody you don't have to be around, don't confront them, just change your routine to avoid them.

LBP

And you wouldn't be here asking about all this if you didn't at least consider acting on your attraction...

valinors_sorrow

I hear the debate in your own mind about needing to do the right thing but digging the hot attention too... once that's settled this gets a lot easier. Only you can settle it too.

A polite way to dampen it is to say wherever he does it next, "Look, I'm flattered at the attention but this girl only plays on the home field. I need you to dial this back to a very mildly flirting level. If you aren't sure what that is, think of me as your sister!" LOL

It will be especially effective if your statement is as public as the passes he makes.

talaniman

Nip it in the bud before it gets worse, tell (don't ask) him to back off and show respect, or get lost.