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I have an interesting update to share with everyone. Well my ex and his gf are over. She finally admitted that the twins she's pregnant with aren't his...
She told him that they are her ex boyfriends babies and so they called it quits.
As most of you know my son also works with them and he said that my ex and her got into such a huge fight at work yesterday that they almost got fired.
His big reason for leaving me for this Ho was because he wanted a baby. WELL BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU WISH FOR, YOU JUST MIGHT GET IT. hehehe.
Do I sound happy about this? HELL yeah i'm happy. I wasted 7 yrs of my life on someone that in the end walked away because I didn't give him a baby. Well looks like she didn't either. She just passed them off as his while it served her purpose.
Ok I know it's taken me a long time to recover from this...But I just wonder how do you recover from leaving a good 7 yr relationship that in everyway seemed extremely happy, All tho minus the baby he wanted, for a lying tramp that told you your biggest wish was coming true only to find out less then 6 months later she lied the whole time...Oh the humiliation he must be feeling knowing that everyone he works with and all of his friends know how bad he betrayed me. Talk about being bit in the @ss...
Well, MissingHim2Much, I want you to know you are an "advisor emeritus", a dean of wisdom and insight, right up there with those others; don't you even begin to think you have graduated and can return to your private life, ever.
Well, MissingHim2Much, I want you to know you are an "advisor emeritus", a dean of wisdom and insight, right up there with those others; don't you even begin to think you have graduated and can return to your private life, ever.
Wow MissingHim, is it wrong that when i read that i got a big smile on my face and felt like jumping out of my chair and yelling YES!!!!! What goes around comes around!
Just a response to the OP's disagreement of my post...
With no warning, my ex- walked out after 10.5 years of marriage and 3.5 of dating before that..so 14 years in all...Why? To persue her dreams...wanted other things in life... think I didn't feel betrayed? Still, you can't control someone else, and being bitter only poisons yourself... should I be happy at every thing negative that comes her way? I didn't want bad to happen to her before, and I still dont. Satisfaction isn't going to result from seeing someone suffer. Time to accept what was, and is no more. Often what we think we have is not the reality.
oneguyinohio writes: "Often what we think we have is not the reality." I disagree with this assessment of reality and think it is kind of sad. Maybe that is why you weren't more upset; you couldn't lose something you never had (to borrow from the title of a song).
Just a response to the OP's disagreement of my post...
With no warning, my ex- walked out after 10.5 years of marriage and 3.5 of dating before that..so 14 years in all...Why? To persue her dreams...wanted other things in life... think I didn't feel betrayed? Still, you can't control someone else, and being bitter only poisons yourself... should I be happy at every thing negative that comes her way? I didn't want bad to happen to her before, and I still dont. Satisfaction isn't going to result from seeing someone suffer. Time to accept what was, and is no more. Often what we think we have is not the reality.
oneguy, I agree you have some very valid points and I admire you for being happy for your ex. I also feel a little bit of bitterness is human nature...And your right, often what we think we have is not reality. And just as often what we think we have is because someone else convinces us that it is reality.
I'm all for persuing your dreams..What I have a problem with is telling someone daily that you are the dream they were persuing and not really meaning it...As for being bitter.. that will fade in time and I will be a whole person again.
“reality, the external world, exists independent of man’s consciousness...this means that A is A, that facts are facts, that things are what they are – and the task of man’s consciousness is to perceive reality not to create or invent it.”
Time makes a difference, and in thinking back... for the first year or two... I felt lots of anger, but having a child... I could not wish bad for her, nor be happy about bad stuff because that would have been a negative affect on the child... our lives didn't go the way we both wanted... even if we didn't agree about it... we still have to go on.
oneguy writes: "...I could not wish bad for her, nor be happy about bad stuff because that would have been a negative affect on the child...." That's a horse of a different color; I'll drink to that.
"Missing him", time to change your name on here! I have followed your progress and am estatic for your vindication. I was hurt too, a long time ago, horrible circumstances. No, it does not go away. You learn to deal with it. After a time, we went on to have a better, stronger, happier marrige. Your ex deserves to suffer, how else would he learn? Empathy is gained from understanding pain. You should not add to his suffering, and enjoying it is of course not nice. But hey, I am proud of you. 'the strongest of all warriors are these two- time and patience' Tolstoy
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