Trouble with my relationship.
Asked Dec 13, 2011, 12:52 PM
I've been having a bit of trouble with girlfriend lately. All we've been doing is fighting and then making up. We've been going out for 7 months and a few days. At first it was pretty nice and I was happy and she was happy and that's all that mattered.
Lately, I just feel like I don't care anymore. I need my space. I feel like things are getting too serious and it scares me.
She claims that I am the love of her life and that I am one of the best things that has happened to her.
This is my first relationship and this is her 2nd.
She wants to transfer to my school if possible and perhaps move in with me after college if we last that long.
I just want to live alone. I like being alone.
I wish things were simpler like before.
Last night she told me that I seem a lot different than I was before: not romantic and cold. She tells me that I am not like she thought I was that I am different, compared to before where we had many things in common.
Last night I told her that what we have is love not true love and that I don't think true love even exists. I did tell her that I do love and care for her though and that won't change.
That set her off.
We might break up.
I am not sure how I feel about this. I don't know if I am happy or sad. I probably feel indifferent if you will.
I just feel like she should have someone how is there for her all the time. Who wants to talk to her everyday without fail.
She needs someone like that and I don't know if I am like that anymore.
My idea of a relationship differs from her's I suppose.
I always thought that if I went out with someone we'd hang out on weekends. Talk for a little bit and go on with our lives. I never really thought of relationships growing up, only my goals and my future. Relationships for me were always optional, always secondary, not really important until I got a lot older.
Her think idea of a relationship is a promise and that she feels that she'll never be happy again if anything happened to us.
Yes I believe that when you are with someone you are faithful to them but you don't spend every waking minute on the phone with them. You give them the space they need and plan nice little dates every now and then.
I don't really know what to do to be quite honest.
Do I wait it out and see if it's just me?
Do I do something about it and end it?
Please I really need some advice. I am going crazy.
Last edited by I wish; Jan 25, 2012 at 04:04 PM.