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Im having a bit of bother with my girlfriend and dont know what to do, here is the info.
Right I live in Newcastle upon tyne and she does to and we see each other everyday and she spends almost everynight at my place and we have been seeing each other for 1 year on saturday 14th July.
My family home is in Scotland now and has been for the last 4 years and i like to visit my family especially since my Mother died 3 years ago, i feel i should see my Dad and brother and sister.
Now when i come to Scotland and this time i came up because my dad has just bought a car for me to learn to drive, she says that she doesnt want me to come, which i understand and in the past she has finished me by Text when i was on my way up to Scotland, and she keeps saying this one thing in particular which is "you always choose them over me".
The most recent time she said this was yesterday via msn i was on chatting to her just after my Dad, me and my brother had an argument. She said i could go if i needed but i said its ok ill stay to talk to you. Then my brother was talking about killing himself and preceeded to pack a small bag and said he was leaving, he wouldn't say where to and he wasn't taking money or food eventually we got him to stay and my dad let him stay at a friends house but he wanted me to talk to dad and go in the car with them. This is when i told my girlfriend what was happening and she immedietly said that phrase and then wouldn't talk to me and told her not to ring her that day or the day after.
But i did ring first time she hung up on me second time her sister told me she didnt want to speak to me.
And now i just dont know what to do?
any help will be greatly appreciated. by the way I Love her very strongly.
Sorry for the amount of text but i feel all details are neccesary.
Thanks, Barador
Oh also she still lives at home and is 2 years younger than me. All her family live close to her so she gets to see them when ever she wants.
What should i do? i talked to her about it last time and she seemed to understand but it came back again.
If you dont like telling me what to do just say what you would do in this situation please
Im having a bit of bother with my girlfriend and dont know what to do, here is the info.
Right I live in Newcastle upon tyne and she does to and we see each other everyday and she spends almost everynight at my place and we have been seeing each other for 1 year on saturday 14th July.
My family home is in Scotland now and has been for the last 4 years and i like to visit my family especially since my Mother died 3 years ago, i feel i should see my Dad and brother and sister.
Now when i come to Scotland and this time i came up because my dad has just bought a car for me to learn to drive, she says that she doesnt want me to come, which i understand and in the past she has finished me by Text when i was on my way up to Scotland, and she keeps saying this one thing in particular which is "you always choose them over me".
The most recent time she said this was yesterday via msn i was on chatting to her just after my Dad, me and my brother had an argument. She said i could go if i needed but i said its ok ill stay to talk to you. Then my brother was talking about killing himself and preceeded to pack a small bag and said he was leaving, he wouldn't say where to and he wasn't taking money or food eventually we got him to stay and my dad let him stay at a friends house but he wanted me to talk to dad and go in the car with them. This is when i told my girlfriend what was happening and she immedietly said that phrase and then wouldn't talk to me and told her not to ring her that day or the day after.
But i did ring first time she hung up on me second time her sister told me she didnt want to speak to me.
And now i just dont know what to do?
any help will be greatly appreciated. by the way I Love her very strongly.
Sorry for the amount of text but i feel all details are neccesary.
Thanks, Barador
man...u got me right here..in the heart...its true, some people just dont like other people...i know its hard. but u have to stand up 4 urself man... if i were u, dump her... thats right, dump her. find the one u love most and marrie her. and tell ur brother not to kill himself... becus i dont want to cime to his fenural...j/k... i hope this helped u a little
you need to apologize to her,tell her you love her and from now on dont hold back any info from her. if she wont talk to you tell her sister that you love her and you need to talk to her.
Your girlfriend needs to learn that other people have needs too - and quite frankly the world does not revolve around her, no matter how much she wishes it would!
Family is important, she needs to understand this - at the end of the day, family are the ones that are there to pick up the pieces of a broken heart - and she should try a little harder to intergrate herself into your family if she really loves you.
You Dont Need To Apologize To Her... Family Comes First.... I Use To Say That To My Boyfriend All The Time Then I Stopped When He Threatened To Leave Me... We See Each Other Everday He Sees His Mom Maybe Twice A Week... And With Your Father Not Living By You God For Bid You Visit Him For A Little While...
Communication is the fundamental element of every relationship - without it, how are problems ever going to be solved? It is very important to make your girlfriend aware that her misunderstanding of your need to see your family is hurting you, your relationship with your family, and your relationship with her.
Ask her to imagine how she would feel if you made her feel guilty for spending time with her family - point out how lucky she is to have them close, because all families have their issues - but at the end of the day, they are family.....nothing more to say!
Tell her that you love her very much and you want to work this out, but you need some understanding from her - otherwise you are going to grow to resent her and no relationship will last then.
It doesn't have to be an argument, and it isn't a matter of choosing one or the other - each should co-exist....family and girlfriend.....they are both important to you, as it would seem they are to her.
She is being quite rude about it at the moment with comments like those that she is making - you shouldn't have to put up with that......
Communication is the fundamental element of every relationship - without it, how are problems ever going to be solved? It is very important to make your girlfriend aware that her misunderstanding of your need to see your family is hurting you, your relationship with your family, and your relationship with her.
Ask her to imagine how she would feel if you made her feel guilty for spending time with her family - point out how lucky she is to have them close, because all families have their issues - but at the end of the day, they are family.....nothing more to say!
Tell her that you love her very much and you want to work this out, but you need some understanding from her - otherwise you are going to grow to resent her and no relationship will last then.
It doesn't have to be an argument, and it isn't a matter of choosing one or the other - each should co-exist....family and girlfriend.....they are both important to you, as it would seem they are to her.
She is being quite rude about it at the moment with comments like those that she is making - you shouldn't have to put up with that......
Hi,
Thanks alot for your answer, thats what i thought but last time i talked to her about it she seemed to understand but i was doing all the talking she usually just says she doesnt want to talk about what happened.
I am also afraid that if i say that she will leave me and i really dont know if i can cope with losing her, atleast thats how i feel
Communication is the fundamental element of every relationship - without it, how are problems ever going to be solved? It is very important to make your girlfriend aware that her misunderstanding of your need to see your family is hurting you, your relationship with your family, and your relationship with her.
Ask her to imagine how she would feel if you made her feel guilty for spending time with her family - point out how lucky she is to have them close, because all families have their issues - but at the end of the day, they are family.....nothing more to say!
Tell her that you love her very much and you want to work this out, but you need some understanding from her - otherwise you are going to grow to resent her and no relationship will last then.
It doesn't have to be an argument, and it isn't a matter of choosing one or the other - each should co-exist....family and girlfriend.....they are both important to you, as it would seem they are to her.
She is being quite rude about it at the moment with comments like those that she is making - you shouldn't have to put up with that......
This happened last night and she told me not to ring her today aswell. So should i try to make contact today or do i wait and if i wait how long for?
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