i dated jim for 8 years. his son who is 22 has a girl living there at his house. I helped her out got her feeling comfortable and one day went upstairs looking for my fiancee and she went nuts. she told me ge t the F out u dont belong up here then verbally and physically attacked me. I told my fiancee I will not take this abuse he told me hes my son thats his girl well what about ME>? I told him she best apologize or Im out of there. That was 3 months ago and I never graced his door step again. I feel he should have kicked out the kid I mean I was his fiancee of 8 yrs we were getting married but he said its his sons girl he 'cant do that' I was like this is YOUR HOUSE. SO I told him until I get apology I wont go there and I havent. He sent me a letter telling me how mean I am he loves misses me. He told me to come over I DIDNT. what gives???

Lillian42

He should have kicked that girl out if she attacked her.But it his is son.... but i can see him kicking her out not him maybe it just is not meant to be because i would feel the way you do i would not want to live somewhere if i felt threatened. it sounds like you would be better off i know it will be hard 8 yrs is a long time but if he is not going to stick up for you when you are being attacked then thats not love in my book.

jaxie

THE KID ATTACKED ME a 40 yr old woman who went out of her way to help her out.
He could have told the son she cant live there no more yes I agree. IF Jim says BOO about his kids girl he goes nuts on his father if it were the other way around the kid would have made sure I WAS GONE for sure. I agree I wont live with VIOLENCE. He didnt stick up for me ur right and ur also right thats not love in MY book either. But to throw 8 yrs away my god. ANd I was so good to his son too. Sad. Now he sends a letter to come over what am I a dog? He telling me to come and I go running? NO I told him no apology NO going back to that nut house. Thanks hun

jaxie

any other thoughts greatly appreciated

Lillian42

it is sad he threw away 8 years expecially when you treated his family so good it sound like he was lucky to have you i commend you on sticking to your guns and not going back to a guy who dose not deserve you !!! you are very strong!

jaxie

thank you lilly i really appreciate it from the bottom of my broken heart. you are very kind

Matt3046

Do you want to see him? If you do someone will have to give (most likely you). If you don't then just walk.

NowWhat

I would have to ask myself if your boyfriend and the son's girlfriend have something going on?
I mean - all you are asking for is an apology at this point. She verbally and physically attacked you - you are within your rights to get an apology - if nothing else.
So, why is he protecting her and not you after 8 years.
If that is a window into your future with this man - then you may want to turn the other way and find someone new!

jaxie

Matt thank you very much, hun I appreciate it. For 8 years I was the one who gave so I best walk like you said. NOWHAT I thought of that but see its like history repeating itself. His father did everything for him and its the same here even tho his son dont give him any respect telling Jim to F off and smashing 4 of his fathers cars and its just such a bad scene. Jim was not there much for his son when he was a kid so I know JIm feels that the more crap he takes and the more he gives well then he will 'win his son over' but hey it still isnt out of the question about the 2 of them. I mean I told him your 48 shes 22 are you going thru a midlife crises with the way you dress like the kids and talk like the kids?? He said no but I dont believe him and also when Jimmy was 25 engaged with his fiancee now his x wife 6 months pregnant he was having sex with a 15 and 16 yr old both of them. 15 HE was 25 and had a baby on the way weeks short of marriage. She bailed on him and she told me not to trust him. well he stole all my money took a bank receipt AND SOLD all my gold and diamonds given to me over 30 yrs from family irreplaceable. TO the tune of over 12 THOUSAND DOLLARS for a crack habit. IF he could do that to me hell like his own mom said he did it to her too stole all her jewelry and money. I just felt like I put so much into the relationship I didnt want to bail I wanted it to work out. But a A hole is an A hole and I hope to GOD what goes around goes around do ya both know what I mean?????????????????? Thanks guys and any input comments very welcomed. I will keep checking to see if yas had to add anything. THANK YOU BOTH Jaxie

jaxie

PS NOW ALL I OWN IS 2 CHARMS FROM MY KIDS AND ONE GOLD NECKLACE. AND THE MEMORIES FROM MY FAMILY? SOLD TO A PAWN SHOP SEE ITS NOT SO MUCH THE 12 GRAND IN JEWELRY ITS THE MEMORIES. AND HE DID THAT TO ME I SHOULD HAVE LEFT THEN AS FOR PRESSING CHARGES I HAD NO PROOF.