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in today's society i have found it very difficult to find a woman that likes herself most of the girls ive dated have had a significant amount of flings to relationship ratios and most of them tend to tell me these things without me asking its almost as if most of them have a guys mind like they are trying to lure me in with macho talk.one of them told me she has had 5 boyfriends but slept with 26 guys have the table turned in today's society are women switching roles?i was very stunned by this ratio someone help me with this .
I think that statistically speaking, men will always be more prone to "sleeping around" than women, but since the "sexual revolution" the ratio has become closer.
Alot has to do too with where you're meeting these gals. If you feel like "most of them" are like you describe, then I highly suggest re-thinking where you go to meet girls.
I don't frequent this board much, but since my friend WC has disagreed, let me be sure I am clear.
If the majority of women you are meeting
1. have no problem telling you about all of their "flings", and
2. are trying to impress you with the number of their escapades, then
You're looking in the wrong place for a real relationship.
With that said, I will unsubscribe from this thread.
I have to agree with Rick on this one. It sounds like you're fishing in a bad pond.
The world is pretty diverse, and there are many women that span the range from amusement ride to perfectly preserved. You're in the amusement park looking at "rides".
I don't frequent this board much, but since my friend WC has disagreed, let me be sure I am clear.
If the majority of women you are meeting
1. have no problem telling you about all of their "flings", and
2. are trying to impress you with the number of their escapades, then
You're looking in the wrong place for a real relationship.
With that said, I will unsubscribe from this thread.
Good luck to you Mr. X.
Easy, easy. Wildcat is right on this one, but that shouldnt get you hot and bothered..... Somethimes people let their own insecurities get in the way of something that can really go somewhere. I agree that he has no place to get upset about her past because its her PAST. It kind of comes down to that old saying "if you dont want to know, DONT ASK!". Also, if this is really a big issue with you, then dont date her......plain and simple. Thats your choice, no problem there. Guys get so insecure with women that have had..........I would say more than like 3 or 4 partners, but the thing is.................most of the time its just sex. Personally, I would be alot more worried about a girl that is in and out of relationships than one that had been with a few guys. If you like this gal, then get over it. If you cant, thats cool...............but move on.
Hi, Mr X,
Having been married now for 29 yrs, and remembering many years ago about dating, I still think roles are basically the same.
I have read and heard that men are twice as likely as women to want sex more often.
One can make more friends in a month by listening to others, than it would take in a year having them listen to you. Seems like you are following this, listening to other girls tell you about their sexual expoits.
Personally, I never was too crazy about a girl who told me she had slept with many other men, and was wondering what I was like! I avoided girls like that.
You can choose what type of girl you want to keep dating, and if this is the type you want, then forget about her past, and be interested in her now.
If you don't like this type, then don't ask her out, or don't ask her out the second time.
Not all women will tell you their sexual history! Those are the ones who are not bragging, who are interested in you. That's the women I would be dating.
They may tell you later, when you get involved in a relationship, about their past, but not right off.
I do wish you the best, and you can choose! Where are you looking for women? As another answer stated, that too, can make a difference.
It could also very much depend on the age of the women too. You must remember that women don't reach their sexual peak until much later than men. That said, I don't think that too much has changed in society just that women are more open to being honest about their sexuality than used to be acceptable.
I hope to add some thought to this without drawing the ire of the feminist crowd. It seems to me that some women, on their way to what they think is liberation, simply duplicate some of the worst of the male behaviors they have witnessed - which includes sexual bragging as a means to attract. Advertised promiscuity is never a good thing in my book for either gender. Acquiring reasonalble sexual experience which is appropo to one's values is a private thing. It still remains that the real winners don't kiss and tell, last I looked, even for the sexually seasoned. I think your database may be a bit skewed Mr X, and like the others, I would suggest a broader subject base?
wild cat and jeffatl I think you are right it is the past but it is a bit weird that the girl would just randomly admit that fact with no reson
as though it is a good thing and would make him like her more
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