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Sometimes I think about all I put into my 7 year relationship and everything I passed along to him that he is now sharing with his new gf. When we first got together I spent lots of time making all of these fabulous meals for him ( cause mama always said the fastest way to a mans heart is through his stomach). Over the years he wanted to learn how to make all the same meals I had made for him. It wasn't just teaching him how to cook either, it was many things. To many to mention actually. Hell I even showed him how to find a womans happy happy fun place, all of which he is now doing for her. I'm sure she thinks he's this great lover and that he's freakin Chef Boy R Dee and i'm sure she just thinks he's mr wonderful. Well who the hell does she think made him so wonderful. He certainly didn't come that way. Well not to me anyway. It just drives me crazy sometimes to think that she's reaping all the rewards for all my hard work. Don't get me wrong I do still love him and I miss him very much and the pain is still hard to deal with but I was just wondering if i'm the only one that thinks this way. Does it bother any of you that all you gave of yourself is now being shared with someone else?
I know exactly what you mean.. I have the same feeling about my ex but I just let it all go the other day so i really dont care. Just always remember where he learned how to cook.
I know exactly what you mean.. I have the same feeling about my ex but I just let it all go the other day so i really dont care. Just always remember where he learned how to cook.
I JUST LET GO!!! I can't wait to be able to say that outloud and really mean it.
You are not alone, it bothers all of us. Well, I won't speak for everyone, but it's natural to be bothered that your loved one is now sharing everything you two once shared. There are things that you must have picked up from him that you will carry on and share with someone else. It doesn't have to be physical, it can be how to see things, or how to do something. A relationship isn't always one sided.
It hurts me that she's going to be with someone else, but what can you do? Try to pick up the pieces and move on. We will be stronger once we get through it. It can be a hard road, but know that you are not alone in feeling the way that you do. Stay strong. For every dark night, there's a brighter day.
Missing Him, I have followed your posts for a while now. I hope you find some peace in your life soon. Heartache is a real pain as well as an emotional one, and it causes real damage to your body. Please, do something nice for yourself every day. A quiet moment with something you enjoy... warm bath, glass of wine, cup of tea, whatever. Know that many people are rooting for your "recovery" your situation is a sad one, but you can come out of it with your head held high. best of luck to you.
OMG I'm sorry but this is just funny because it is so true! I have nearly passed the point of caring anymore that she has what I made. I guess that's why I can laugh about it now. Someday you will be able to laugh about it too.
Im in the same boat as you, and have very similiar thoughts quite frequently. It will be so great when this pain is over wont it?
It will be great when the pain is finally over but sometimes I think it's gonna last forever. Just about the time I start to feel better, WHAMMM it hits me like a ton of bricks and i'm back where I started.
Missing Him, I have followed your posts for a while now. I hope you find some peace in your life soon. Heartache is a real pain as well as an emotional one, and it causes real damage to your body. Please, do something nice for yourself every day. A quiet moment with something you enjoy... warm bath, glass of wine, cup of tea, whatever. Know that many people are rooting for your "recovery" your situation is a sad one, but you can come out of it with your head held high. best of luck to you.
Thanks so much cerisa for your caring response, Tuesday's his Birthday so I just might have to take a warm bath, have a cup of tea and several glasses of wine to get through this one. His B-Day will be the first major day we won't share since he left and i'm worried it's gonna be a rough one.
Cerisa had some excellent suggestions! I know EXACTLY what it's like to be so hurt and confused that you can't think of anything except him.
On big dates like tonite, maybe in the future you could round up some close girlfriends and go to dinner or catch a comedy. Kansas City has some good comedy clubs! Laughter IS the best medicine!
Anywho, it's not healthy to stew over the same thing. You'll make yourself sick! I know because I've been down that path, and it's miserable. I'll keep you in my prayers, and hopefully your heart ache will soon start to fade.
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