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I think my wife's friend likes me. What should I do.
My wife's friend is always looking at me and asking if we could all hang out all the time. It makes me uncomfortable. We always get into arguments when ever I hang out with her. She always compliments my looks and ask questions about my where abouts. It make me uncomfortable.
I think you should avoid her, she will just ruin your marriage life. You should tell your wife about this because she has the right to know. You are already married so you don't have to entertain her, you have the right to ignore her. And the best thing to do is tell your wife about this, be honest to her. It's also her concern.
I think you should avoid her, she will just ruin your marriage life. You should tell your wife about this because she has the right to know. You are already married so you don't have to entertain her, you have the right to ignore her. And the best thing to do is tell your wife about this, be honest to her. It's also her concern.
One of the few answers, though the telling wife part's been said, that didn't make fun of his question.
In addition to the answers that have already been given, and without passing any sort of judgment on the situation, I just wanted to add that, when confronted with questions by someone who makes you feel uncomfortable, you could always retort with things like, "What's it to you?" "I'll have to think about that..." And, my favorites which are really non-committal as far as an answer, "Maybe be, maybe not, I'll have to think about it." "That presents a challenge to me but I'm not sure of my response at this time. Perhaps you could help me with it?" (Makes the other person feel as though they have caused you a problem and are in control, when in reality, you just made them feel good that they could be the solution to your problem. You are really in control, they aren't.) "Would you mind rephrasing your question some, because I'm not quite sure what you mean?" And, my all-time favorite answer that really is non-committal if you really think about it, is "Probably so." Stating something as being probable does not make it a reality!
And, my all-time favorite answer that really is non-committal if you really think about it, is "Probably so" Stating something as being probable does not make it a reality!
A couple of others along this line are, "Why do you ask?" and "You may be right."
Very true! I had forgotten about those! Thank you! The point being here collectively is, asking questions doesn't necessarily mean that you are being on the defensive or even being on the offensive when asking questions when someone is seeming to make you feel uncomfortable, but that you are hip to appropriate and polite responses according to how they have asked questions.
Well first although I think it has been covered, it is not proper for a married man to be "hanging" with other women, esp if not in a group.
You should merely stop putting yourself in this situation.
And who cares if she likes you are not, if she does what are you going to do ??? hopefully nothing different than just ignore her anyway ??
I am sorry it appears you also have a interest and want to confirm how she feels for some reason
Always bring your wife into the equation. If your wife's friend asks if you can hang out with her, tell her you will check with your wife and she is she is available. If the friend says something to you, you can also say, "I can't believe you would say that to me." or "I can't believe you would ask that." That way you are not requiring her to answer your question. You are simply making a statement without answering her question.
You don't mention how long you have been married but I will tell you this. All your life, there will be women or girls who will show interest in you. There will always be opportunities for you to choose to be true to your wife or to have an affair and destroy the love you two have in your marriage. Maybe you are surprised by the girls attention because she is a friend to your wife. That is not an unusal thing. When someone is wanting attention, they will seek it. You will have choices, as I say from now on.
I hope you will decide right now to not question why you are getting attention but to simply direct your full attention to your wife. The friend will get the message and move on. It can be a pretty heady experience getting attention from the opposite sex. It is just so important to keep your priorites straight in this life. You have chosen to be married. Keep your wife always in your mind and heart. The temptations will be easier to walk away from.
No one will keep coming around without encouragement.
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