I think my white boyfriend might be racist! Help!,

Fr_Chuck · Apr 24, 2011, 12:38 PM

I know black people who think poorly of many other blacks because they are examples of the worst. Do you live in or are your friends from the "hood"

But many people don't wish to have kids because of how bad and hard it is now aday for any and all kids.

Also people, some like to joke about "types" they make jokes or comments about while trailer trash, mexicans, and so on.

But also I have seen many minorities that finds racism everywhere One family member of mine, if we have to wait too long to get waited on, "it is because they are black" If they have a bad experience at store it is becuae thy are blacks

chuff · Apr 24, 2011, 05:31 PM

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Originally Posted by hamzlolly

As the post says, I'm 21 and I don't have any children with him. He says he doesn't know if he wants to have kids in the future because they might turn out to be druggies.? Now you explain to me why he might make a comment like that when he knows I don't even smoke or drink? What other logial explanation is there?

What? Is this even serious? He makes this comment and you assume it's a racist comment? Is everything that doesn't make sense fall under racism to you? I honestly don't understand this hypersensitvity to everything must be racial in nature, and whitey is out to get me at every turn, including the white boyfriend who treats me well. What a odd way to go through life. Maybe it's not the white man in this relationship who's the racist.

I read that comment to mean, there's a lot of things in the world beyond a parents control or beyond the ability of a parent to help there child and drugs is one of them. Perhaps, just perhaps this man does not want to subject himself to trying to help a child who has become an addict, because many have fought that battle and lost and that is not a battle he wants to lose. Perhaps, his solution to not losing a child to drugs is not having on to begin with.

this8384 · Apr 25, 2011, 07:32 AM

As the two above me have said, I think the racism lies elsewhere - certainly not with your boyfriend. You say you "confronted him" about the comment about druggie children, yet you STILL have no idea if your race was why he even made the comment in the first place.

Personally, I think you have a lot of growing up to do before you date anyone - black, red, yellow OR white. You make assumptions about things and are pointing the finger without any just cause.

EDIT: After reading your other thread about makeup, this makes more sense. You sound excessively insecure in multiple ways, from your skin color to your acne scars. Due to your insecurity, you keep trying to blame other people for "making you feel bad" when in reality, the only person who's going to fix any of these situations is yourself. Stop condemning your boyfriend at every turn and learn to love yourself - your life will be a lot easier.

Josephine92 · Nov 15, 2011, 02:21 PM

Well I dated a white guy before and he was amazing....sweet, charming you name it. We are no longer together, but its not because he had a problem with black people. His bestfriend is black. All i have to say is communicate with him about how you feel toward what he says, that goes toward any relationship its never perfect so i guess that the problem in your relationship, and that can be fixed. If you love him and he loves you it will work out, if not go your separte way.

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