One man is very nice, he is really a responsible man! Be kind, patient to everyone, responsible for his job! Everyone likes him! I feel I like to see him every day, he is not good looking, but tall, very man! It seems he is my style! I do not know! Actually, we have little talk except something about job! And he is from other country, I know little abut him! You can say I have no idea about him! But I feel I begin to like him! What should I do? He is a manager of another department! What should I do? What can I do? I feel scared cause my feeling for him is getting stronger and stronger! Help!help!

Clough

If you were to get together with him as far as dating, would that be a problem for your job?

You say that he is from another country. What do you mean by that, please?

jasmine_rezzag

I feel nervous to see he walks around me every time, when I read your answer he is walking around me! I don’t think dating with him will make difference on my job, but how could I let him know my feeling? Should I let him know my feeling. I am 24, I think he maybe 44, I do not know, I even do know he is married or not. But I guess he is unmarried, he comes from in Singapore, he is black. But it seems he does not go home too much, cause he work here even on Saturday (our work time is from Monday to Friday, but he always continue his job on Saturday) you can see he is a very responsible man! And I heard that he usually spends his weekend with our male colleagues. If he is married, why he never goes home? so I think he is unmarried!

Clough

I would suggest asking some of your female colleagues that you trust as to what they know about him first. You could find some things about him that way. Why are you interested in a man who is so much older than you, please? How do you know that he might be as old as you think?

S SID

Iwould say go for it but don't forget that because of the age difference you will both have different interests in life, this is not to say that it won't work, it just means that you will both have to work harder for it to work. Take things slowly and talk about what he likes to do in his spare time, where he goes and tell him what you do and where you go etc.
Good luck.

ihsanidrees

what if he is a married man. you said you do not know him well.

Clough

That is true. It would be good to know this.

jasmine_rezzag

He was late for ten minutes on this morning, I watch him walking into the office every morning!
I don’t know how to tell my best friends, they must say I must be crazy! I don’t know why but they can’t accept an older and black man! Sounds sad! His sister is legal counselor of our company, a real business woman, and she is already 56years old (I learned her birthday from our company’s catalogue), so I think he at least should be 40, and he looks not that young! I do not look for old man, but just feel he is attractive to me! Hard to say that feeling! I don’t know how to tell him. Now he is my little secret! I feel more nervous everyday! If he was married, I will leave here, go to another place to find another job! That’s it! I don’t want to hurt anybody! Can’t hurt him! Can’t bring him into any trouble! Cause he is too nice!

jasmine_rezzag

I just get a bad news that he is married, and have three children! Ohm, god, help! I feel sad!

ihsanidrees

See! told you so!
Hey, come on. you still young and has bright future. You have to forget him and start to look after yourself and be sure, you will find your man some day! Good Luck