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Please do not give opinion unless you have read my original Thread (Is my Ex fiance coming back again) To refresh your memory 11 days ago I told ex to dont call, e-mail or try yo see me again. I told her I would drop off her sons bed I did. And their was another guy there. I was very upset she would do that. But she told her sons step brother that hes not her type he's fat.But Yesterday my ex's sons step brother came over (he's 19)My Ex told him to say Make sure you tell him I'm not dating that guy she told several times. And he told her I think he not her type because hes fat, she started laughing. My question is after telling her to leave me alone forever (I know that made her mad) why she would make sure I know she wasn't datiing anybody. I mean she broke up with me why would she care. 11 weeks ago when she broke up with me I asked him do you think she will be back. He hesitated and said maybe. I asked him last night and he didn't hesitate and said she'll be back. It's been 11 days of NC and i guess until I move out of my house it seems like she will always have a way to come back and it scares me. because I don't want her back butI'm the nice guy and if her and son come over start crying that they want me back I'm afraid I might buckle. Noing that it wont work. Please help because I'm lost rite now.
These messages between the kids has to stop, for one its not their business and they should not be used as pawns between two adults. This is not no contact by the way, nor is it healthy.
These messages between the kids has to stop, for one its not their business and they should not be used as pawns between two adults. This is not no contact by the way, nor is it healthy.
She broke up with me why would she care how I feel, meaning making a point that shes not dating that guy. If I broke up with her I would probally care less what she thought. I think she would let me think that to let me know she moving on. The only reason I would say thats not my boyfriend is to keep her foot in the door with me and yes I do know this NC and I pray it stays this way.Yes I told her sons step brother I don't want to hear anything about ex or her son ever when he helped droped off bed that day.
I do belive she's up to her old trick again. Playing mind games with me. She starting to drive past my house again. Monday night and again just today (driving slow. she is a fast driver) last break up I told her I was so depressed I just sat and stared out the window. I don't do that now but was shaving and saw her.She even called my sister to find out if my nephew could spend the night witch she asked a few times in the 5 years. she has no reason to drive past my house When we broke up this time she never drove past house in the beginning of this break up, but now she doing it. In a few of break ups when she came back she did say this what I want out of relationship if you don't want this leave me alone.Now im totaly confused?
She is full of games and drama. Bet she can't believe your standing up for yourself and moving on with your life. Generally most guys who gets into the NC, finds out the things about an ex they were blind to before. So will you! That's why it is so important to leave them alone, and let the emotional dust settle so you can see much clearer.
Was talking to mom and she feels she probally getting nervous that Im moving on this time. She feels she keeps breaking up with me to get the upper hand. I think with her she knows I'll take her back and she'll make me mop over her just long enough then come back and say this is how the relationship is going to be.(Not this time) My brother in law came over last night and hung out and didn't think about her at all. Or when I'm keeping myself busy now. This is something I have never been able to do in all of the break ups with her. I told him I can't worry about when she's coming back but I'll deal with her when she does comes back. I will not answer her phone calls, e-mails or if I see her driving past house when I'm out side I will walk in house. But I think she will start putting more effort in ways to come back when she see's the For Sale sign on my house then she'll know I mean business. I don't think if I didn't find this site I would be as strong with my healing process and want to thank everyone for helping me.
Was talking to mom and she feels she probally getting nervous that Im moving on this time. She feels she keeps breaking up with me to get the upper hand. I think with her she knows I'll take her back and she'll make me mop over her just long enough then come back and say this is how the relationship is going to be.(Not this time) My brother in law came over last night and hung out and didn't think about her at all. Or when I'm keeping myself busy now. This is something I have never been able to do in all of the break ups with her. I told him I can't worry about when she's coming back but I'll deal with her when she does comes back. I will not answer her phone calls, e-mails or if I see her driving past house when I'm out side I will walk in house. But I think she will start putting more effort in ways to come back when she see's the For Sale sign on my house then she'll know I mean business. I don't think if I didn't find this site I would be as strong with my healing process and want to thank everyone for helping me.
hey sab, so shes starting to come around alittle, that sucs, diving by, she will definetly be putting more effort soon, its the way the selfish game goes....sounds so familiar, my ex would do the same. drive by my house, my work, throw rocks at the bedroom window at like 4 am, before work, leave me messages crying, and sure enough, id be there, thinking he meant it all. this has been like 10 times now!!! he should be in hollywood..lol..
i dont think she breaks up with u to get the uper hand, sorry, she already had the upper hand. (my ex with me 2) just by them coming in an out the way they do. dont let her get it back, even if u do someday, do the no contact for much longer, please, just to get yr self stronger, wether u go back or not isnt the issue at hand to me, right now its take care of u, move on, do what u have to do in life. dont let her take up space in yr head....no matter what happens u will be more stable because of this, and maybe will make different decisions too. then u can know u have the uper hand.( :
Generally most guys who gets into the NC, finds out the things about an ex they were blind to before. So will you! That's why it is so important to leave them alone, and let the emotional dust settle so you can see much clearer.
With all other break ups I alway did the NC but was to hurt to heal myself to see what type of person she is. I just wanted her back and that was it. I believe now you have to move on and let go to see if this the person you want to be with. And all the advise on this site to make me realize what type of person she is.
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