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Please do not give opinion unless you have read my original Thread (Is my Ex fiance coming back again) To refresh your memory 11 days ago I told ex to dont call, e-mail or try yo see me again. I told her I would drop off her sons bed I did. And their was another guy there. I was very upset she would do that. But she told her sons step brother that hes not her type he's fat.But Yesterday my ex's sons step brother came over (he's 19)My Ex told him to say Make sure you tell him I'm not dating that guy she told several times. And he told her I think he not her type because hes fat, she started laughing. My question is after telling her to leave me alone forever (I know that made her mad) why she would make sure I know she wasn't datiing anybody. I mean she broke up with me why would she care. 11 weeks ago when she broke up with me I asked him do you think she will be back. He hesitated and said maybe. I asked him last night and he didn't hesitate and said she'll be back. It's been 11 days of NC and i guess until I move out of my house it seems like she will always have a way to come back and it scares me. because I don't want her back butI'm the nice guy and if her and son come over start crying that they want me back I'm afraid I might buckle. Noing that it wont work. Please help because I'm lost rite now.
I started thinking more and more what you said tal, and you are exactly right. We are both grown adults, and yet we both are acting like 16 year old high schoolers, and playing the baby games they would play at that age. I do feel different now from what you had posted. And how I feel right now is who cares, get over it and move on.
Sometimes we do not have the luxury of wring our hands when positive action is needed. We can't let others dictate our lives and leave us fearful of what could happen. Just deal with it. Where the head goes the heart will follow.
Need some Encouragement? Its been 3 months since she broke up with me again and for awhile I was doing very good with controling my emotions and letting go of her. But the past week I have been hurting again and missing her. Well, yesterday I was doing some yard work and she drove past my house again. (It has been probally 2 weeks since she new I saw her drive past. She went out of her way yesterday to drive past my house. Then about a hour 1/2 later her mom drove past (I was sitting down and she was going some what fast then when she got to where I was sitting she slowed down. I did tell her I was putting my house up for sale first week of May when we where talking. (It's been probally 5 weeks of NC)
Is she doing this because she want to come back again or to really see if I'm selling my house. She said I'll believe it when the for sale sign is on it. Her biggest problem with me was that house because she had no part in the process And when I do see her I walk inside house. But yesterday when she caught me off gaurd she did look my direction the hole time when she did drive by. I No what type of person she is, but deep down inside I still love her and maybe I want her to come back for some reason. I'm thinking only the good time we had together now and how it would feel to hug and kiss her again. I'm afraid if she comes back I may take her back and I don't no why. I feel like she controlling me and my emotions again and it sucks. I read some post on here and thier are people 1 to 2 years still hurting after a break up. Will I end up like them, still hurting and thinking of her.
To let everyone no I'm putting my house up for sale tomorrow and kind of relieve the major work is finished. But I'm also concerned that know that the house is going up for sale the fireworks will begin with my ex. For the past 3 years this is the one day she always told me she couldn't wait for. Too sell that damn house. She no's I'll get a good chunk of change for my house. So I guess the next couple of weeks if she want's to get me back again she'll make it known. If she does I just hope it's by e-mail or calls I can handle not answering or responding to her. But my heart is not fully healed and I still miss and love herand her son very much. And if she comes to my house and starts crying for me I'm afraid I'll buckle like I always did when she came back. I just cant wait to sell house now and start a brand new life for myself. And with her and her mom driving buy more often I think she is missing me and wants me back again, I think she is just waiting for the house to go up for sale. And I do know my ex very good and this is something she would do. But only time will tell.
Please stop thinking and hoping. Watch a football game tonight or something. Don't think about her. I know it's hard but she broke up with you 5 TIMES! Enough is enough. One break is all it should take. Move on. You deserve better. Can u imagine making her wait 3 months? It would hurt you to know she is hurting, but apparently she doesn't care if you are hurting. If someone can go as much as a week from not hearing from you or caring how you are doing, imagine 5 weeks and it being done 5 times. ENOUGH!!! Stop torturing yourself. You will find better. Especially that you are selling the house, have money and are somewhat happy of what will come, then enjoy that! Let this be your own time. You're an adult and you should celebrate on your own terms and give this moment to yourself. Congrats! You just need to enjoy this one with your friends or yourself. Don't think about her. Love is blind. Please...We all go through these times...We may be strangers but as humans I guess this world still has a lot of love and we want what is best for you. We know the pain and the best thing to do is move on. Moving on means to forget about her and look forward to new and exciting things. I wish I can shrink into your blood cells and be the cure you need. Good luck!
She is very maniplitve, and she no's when she drives past my house it will keep me thinking of her (It always worked with me in the past). I don't purposely look for her to drive buy but I have to keep up with outside of house. But when she does drive buy my emotions get the best of me.And I can't contol my emotions. I just can't wait to sell house then she WILL never control me again like she is now. I thought I had control but I guess I'm still WEAK. And my stupid A** is letting her do this to me and I don't no why. And I think I'm getting stronger because I'm thinking of my new house with out her being apart of it. But it's the great advise I get here that brings me back to reality. And you are rite if I loved someone I would NEVER let them wait as long as she did with me the 5 times. Thanks everyone!
You're not stupid. You will get through this. Just stay with us here...Well not literally but use us as a checkpoint. Live ur life and ignore her then tell us how you are doing and we will keep helping. But don't give in because then we will feel let down in a way. We are in this together! I'm here for you. I know you are better than this. When ur heart goes crazy, drink some cold water and wash ur face. Have u tried writing ur feelings and writing down how u feel and how she is hurting u? Then take it and crumble it with anger and throw it away. Do you go out? Do u have any friends?
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