Been with this guy for almost a year ( febuary will make it).
He is 27 yrs at first i have thought that he suffered from some sort of mental health issues or anxiety issues....but i dont know ...i picked up some signs but dont think they are still valid....It has happenned twice that he has disappeared for a few days when his life seems to be too much or unbearable for him....Isolation is a form of negative coping mechanism but i tried to make him understand that i worry when he acts this way....its not far to make me worry like that...When i comment on it he says he is sorry but doesnt seem to understand why i worry... Again this weekend he does it but i caught quicker news from him by text.... Here is the story: On friday he calls me and says he is going to clinic cause he has a bad cut on his finger happenned at work.....Later on he contacts me and says he couldnt wait anymore at the clinic took too much time so he went to the pharmacie and bought some medication hoping that it wont get infected....The next day tried contacting him to see how his finger is doing and no where to be found...
I leaved him texts and he didnt reply back
( i hate writting text message but he seems to enjoy that...i prefer verbal communication easier to get my message accrossed)
the next day i called a few times same thing no answer....until i sent him a text expressing the fact i hate the fact he always dissapears or never calls back...he answered back brefly saying he is at the clinic and that his finger got infected.....i simnply replied back saying that the fact his finger got infected he couldnt call me back and that he could call me back when he done with the clinic...

Long story for nothing but what i am trying to say is that he gets envaded by life unforseen occurences and forgets about poeple around him...its just not right but i dont know how to make it clearer?

EIFS EXPERT

He's probably smoking crack.

Sorry but where I'm from only crackheads disappear for two days.

EIFS EXPERT

What do you think he's doing? I've had employees who have disappeared for days and guess what? They were on crack. Anyone who disappears for days on end is obviously doing something. Maybe I'm jumping the gun but it really isn't too far fetch if you ask me.

EuRa

My ex-gf thought I suffered from the same thing. However, I was just messing around on her, and since she made up the excuse for me, it was very easy for me to mess around. I've grown up since then, but only after she dumped me and didn't give me a second chance.

I'm not saying that he is cheating, but I'd find it hard to trust a guy that disappears for days, makes excuses, doesn't call, and doesn't seem to care about your feelings.