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Ugh, so i did something stupid again and went on my ex's facebook. i knew it was just going to hurt me even more but, i dont know... im an idiot... Anyway, she broke up with me cus of "long distance" but i'm thinking that that was BS cus she has some other guy. I checked her inbox and she sent him these really long messages about how she's never been so in love with anyone before, and how she cant wait to be married to him. (mind you, they've been together a month) It just freakin hurts cus she said those same exact words to me, but not a month in. And now im thinking, how long has she not meant it to me?
I guess there is kind of a plus side to snooping, at least ill stop kidding myself into thinking that she'll want to come back. But it just gets me thinking, She's the one that said all that stuff to me, but she broke up with me... could he really be that much better than me? I'm pretty sure she was happy for the 2 years we spent together.
on a side note... how crazy is this--> When she came back for thanksgiving break, she was all over me and telling me that she can't wait till we're married and all that fun stuff, then she goes back to school for only 10 days, and then comes back home for xmas break and breaks up with me her first day back. It only took that guy 10 days to make her completely forget about me... what a piece of work.
Anyway, is she crazy for feeling that way towards him so soon? or is that a normal type of thing when girls break up with someone and then immediately enter another relationship?
Facebook and social networking sites are the devil when it comes to break-ups. The SNOOPING has to stop my man. I wrote ALLLLLLLLLL about snooping my ex's wall on this site and it turned me into an obsessive freak (i'm sure those that know my story are agreeing. I spent hours and hours a day looking for hints and checking all the people she spoke to and her ex-boyfriends profile, honestly i was out of control. I had facebook blocked from my computer and Myspace. I can no longer use them b/c of the insanity of it all.
DON'T repeat my mistake, delete the thing or get rid of her profile cause it will make what you have to do an infinite amount of times harder.
As for the actual situation, I don't like what she is doing and I feel for you, i really do. HOWEVER, it seems like you have convinced yourself that she is sooooo happy with him and that he made her forget you in 10 days, Nonsense to that say I.
It is always the perspective of us guys to think that our ex's are happy and free and thatthey are doing all kinds of things with all kinds of guys. I thought her writing hello to an ex was basically b/c they were sleeping together, our minds jump to the worst case scenario. She is happy, she does not miss me, etc. In reality, no girl/guy is exempt from lonelyness or heart ache, if you miss her chances are in many ways she misses you. Her seeing another guy so soon after is an indication of how emotionally stunted she is, she is with him to help get over you, so be a little proud of that (although it sounds weird...lol).
Just b/c it does not seem like she cares about you based on her actions, i'll wager she does, she's human. Show me a guy/girl who cared about someone andspent years with them that can honestly say after a month they feel nothing for the other person, if you can find one I'd love to sit and chat with them.
Finally, I really like 2 of my ex girls, ALOT. If they wanted to try again I would not hesitate, but I gave up on it. What I'm trying to say is that eventhough i have feelings for them I won't make that known from now til....well....ever. Just b/c one does not act a certain way does not mean thats how they feel.
Id have to say that snoopying is not the best thing. coz we normaly find stuff we dont want to find and it does hurt!
thats why i never stay friends with my Xs. because i couldnt even dear to dream that there with anyone eles!
I agree. i hate FACEBOOK! its awful you can find out everything how can anyone stand to see there Xs happy!
all the people that have sent me all this stuff ohh i love ya and yeah were ideal together blah blah bling bling blah!
Words are cheap now a days..
in my strange mind my X went out with a crazy looking dude. so that made me feel a lot better. hehe
Wait a minute... How did you get into your girlfriends inbox on facebook?? You must know her password... yes? I think there is a big difference between visiting a myspace/facebook page and accessing their personal profiles...
I'm sorry, but you shouldn't have done that. Its not "snooping" if you visit a facebook/myspace page. That, sadly, happens a lot in break-up situations, I've done it myself now and again. But, to actually access someone's personal page by inputting their password... that's snooping.
Anyways... this is beside the point.
She is needy and in a rebound relationship. You shouldn't compare yourself to him. I'm so sorry that you had to see that same email to another guy. I know that had to seriously hurt. But really darlin, you're going to be fine. You got the better end of the deal on this one. Don't hurt yourself more by looking at her page. As hard as it is, you'll feel much better when you don't.
Keep your chin up - and don't log into her facebook anymore!
Yeah, we set it up together so i do know it... i felt awful, because i know that thats a total invasion of privacy and stuff. I've only looked like twice, and i dont think ill do it again, ill just start ranting or something on this site next time i have nothing better to do. I know it was wrong, but i did it anyway... what can i say...
Anyway, i have deleted her as a friend, and i hardly ever use facebook anyway just cus i think its dumb. Its just when i have nothing to do i start to wonder... and i know i should just get busy when that happens, but i doubt it will anymore cus classes have just started back up for me and with school, work, friends, and hoes, i think her facebook will be the last thing on my mind.
652 posts in 2 months... i would say you lead a very fulfilling life, haha. i kid.
damn. i've been caught.
believe it or not, this site is very therapeutic. I saved thousands here by not going to therapy...I never believed in therapy...but I also come from a family that doesn't believe in hospitals unless something's broken...and even then, it has to be bad enough that the bone sticks through the skin. anyways, yeah.
still sick. still in bed. just found out today that tv these days has gone straight to hell. I have 120 something channels...and NOTHING to watch between 10am - 6pm. goodness.
believe it or not, this site is very therapeutic. I saved thousands here by not going to therapy...
LOL, same here!!! I would hate to think how much i would have spent over the last nine months if i had gone to see a therapist!
But anyway, Yeah Ihatewestseneca, try to keep busy so that you don't feel tempted to try to find out things about your ex. When mine first broke up with me, i tried to find out all i could about what was going on with him. Big mistake! He started seeing his best friend a month after he left me, and in trying to find out about their life together, All i did was torture myself and cause more pain on top of what i was already feeling......I definitely agree with a post comment that Maffiaangel180 made....Ignorance truly is bliss. I would much rather be ignorant than constantly hurting. Luckily i've finally reached the point in regards to him that i really don't give a *bleep*
Whether you realise it or not, what you discovered is actually a good thing. Even though it hurt like hell, the reality is, it showed her true colours - she is a player. The old adage goes - the truth shall set you free.
Even if everything you read was true, bear in mind that whirlwind romances often finish just as abruptly as they start. And she probably started the relationship so she could get a 'quick fix' from feeling the effects of the break-up (otherwise known as a rebound relationship).
Rise above this, and realise you are the better person. I too had the compulsion to keep checking my ex's facebook, and it hurt me as well. If you can't stop yourself from checking her facebook, remove the temptation altogether and delete your profile, at least temporarily until you can get past this point. I deleted mine and won't put it back up again until I don't care anymore.
. I spent hours and hours a day looking for hints and checking all the people she spoke to and her ex-boyfriends profile, honestly i was out of control. I had facebook blocked from my computer and Myspace. I can no longer use them b/c of the insanity of it all.
and it does hurt!
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