1. i was the phone to my bf. i called on his work mobile, 2 secs into the conversation his personal mob rings, he tells me to hold on, when he answered he cut me off.
2. i rang back and when i asked who called him he said.... mmmm mmmmm, mc donalds called (coz he fixes their machines).. i was like yeah right. he said well if your gonna be stroppy i dont wanna talk 2 u and cut me off again!!!!

should i call back?

J_9

No, I would not call back right away. He may come back at you saying that you are "spying" on him.

Let him call you back, his actions do sound kind of funny to me.

flower81

i dont know what to do.
I really trust him... but something is telling me its different - i have this bad gut feeling

flower81

he called me now.
He said sorry for hanging up on me, he said he is very stressed at d mo with work and didnt need me being on his case!

Shall i believe him?

Krs

hi flower,

it sounds like he is stressed, and hopefully thats all it is. The fact that he phoned to say sorry, to me that means something good.

why he cut u off i dont know, maybe it was by mistake, or am i being naive, that i dont know.

Chery

OK, Flower, lets talk facts.
You are 'driving yourself mad' as you said in a previous thread....
I have intentionally put off getting too specific because I feel that you need to reflect on what you really want in life.

1. You get all hot and bothered when your b/f talks to other women.
2. You get upset when the subject of sex is brought up in a conversation.
3. When you call him, you expect him to drop everything and irritated when he has a business phone call at work.
4. Deep inside, you also feel that he asks too much of you when he wants to experiment sexually.

What would you think, and even suggest to someone else when you read your threads. Think, if someone posted the same situation as you did what kind of bells would ring?

It is my opinion, and please correct me if I'm wrong, that you are so darned insecure that it hurts. I certainly would not want to be in your shoes - and I'm sure you are uncomfortable in them yourself.

Yes, you are driving yourself mad... Stop this and talk to a professional about why you don't have confidence in yourself. You are so insecure that it's going to drive him away. If you really love this guy, then do both of you a favor and get to the bottom of your insecurity and learn to grow into a person who understands herself enough to be able to trust and understand others.

Why do you not accept it when someone tells you he loves you? Why don't you think you are just as good in bed as any other women can be? Why do you think your b/f talks to other women on the phone while at work? Until you have the answers for this, you'll continuously have problems in any relationship you start. Your own insecurity is going to drive you mad!!

Somehow, you have the wrong impression of a 'couple'. There must have been something very traumatic in your past that you have not worked on yet, and it's preventing you from having a satisfying life in the present. And until you straighten this out with yourself, you'll not have any peace in the future.

If you cannot or will not talk to anyone about your past, PM me and we'll work on it. I know from personal experience that a past that has not been 'closed' can cause unbelievable damage and am offering you a chance to at least open the door and work on the real you.
You deserve to have a fulfilled life in the present and future, so please take the opportunity given.

I want so much for you to look forward, and have your dreams come true.

Think about it, and get back with us. We are here for you, so grab that chance. It's free.
You want to trust him, but something is preventing you from doing so, and that is deep within you. Let's find out what that is...

flower81

what do u mean, why do i think my bf talks to other women on the phone while at work?

flower81

could it be this :- sometimes i feel he is too good to be true?

Chery

Isn't that what you insinuated in that post?


In some way, you might feel that he's too good to be true and that you don't deserve him - again, leading to your insecurity. So, why is it that you feel you don't deserve to be happy?

flower81

Sorry ok, i understand now. I dont know why i thought he spoke to other women.. again showing my insecurity, but then again why did he hesitate when i asked who he spoke to? And if mc donalds did call him, why on his personal mob and not work mob!! Though his personal mob was used b4 for work b4 he got a new work mob with a different number!
I dont know