I met a guy in highschool and we became really good friends. We then decided to date and after a while we decided to date exclusivly. We were juniors in highschool. After about six months he cheated on me, he slept with my best friend after I found out I asked if he had cheated on me before and he said there was one other but they just made out. I decided to give him another chance we have been together since I felt like it made us stonger and things were amazing for a long time then he started going out with his friends a lot and just recently we broke up because one night he went with his friends to a bar and slept with another girl it has been three and a half years since the last time he did it we are not married yet but we have talked about it many times he wants me to take him back again and I really want to make this work because I love him so much but I am scared for our future do you think that this could really work or do you believe the old saying once a cheater always a cheater.

nymphetamine

That was how many times he cheated on you? UM you do know that your beautiful and you can have any man you want right? go out and meet some people and make new friends. somewhere where he is not. Yes i promise you he will cheat again. Ditch the zero and find you a hero.

Fr_Chuck

Unless you have been using protection for sex, you should be more scared of all sorts of disease he could be bringing back to you.

He is a dog, he cheats and cheats and cheats. He will not change.
Dump this dog and start making new friends. He will tell you anything and everything he thinks you want to hear.

If you want to keep getting hurt, this is the guy for you, don't beleive the "I will change" I won't do it again, this is just BS guys say when they are caught, if you know of 3 times, it is most likely many times that.

nymphetamine

Dont mean to scare you but get your self tested for any sexually transmitted diseases.

PrettyLady

I agree with the other comments. Some people cheat in a relationship, then realize what they did was wrong. However, there are people who cheat throughout their relationship without any remorse. Trust is the foundation for a relationship. This boyfriend of yours is a real jerk, you deserve someone who is loyal and trustworthy. Walk away from your so call relationship, you'll be alright. There's lots of single guys out there, I know you will find one that treats you right.

letmeno

It's been 3 1/2 years since he last cheated......Are you sure? Whatever the case may be, you are young, you have your whole entire life ahead of you to make new friends, date, meet new people, and find that one guy who doesn't want another living human being but you!
Good Luck!

talaniman

GO ahead and marry this cheatin' moron so after you have his babies you can cry oh,wo is me he broke my heart with my best friend again. I don't care how much you love him,you've already wasted YEARS with this cheater.How much more can you take.? Get away now,before you really screw up with this loser and find a real man!!

s_cianci

I believe the old saying "once a cheater, always a cheater." He's not a faithful person and obviously doesn't care about you or his feelings. Steer clear of him. He's not good enough for you and you deserve better.

jeffatl

I agree with above! Why give this guy another chance to hurt you again. That "old saying" is just that FOR A REASON. If you take this guy back he will walk all over you again, and to be blunt about it thats probably why he wants you back. Its funny how people can be nice to you when they want something from you. It sounds like you have alot to offer, why not give that to someone that acually deserves it?

Chery

He might make a good husband to someone down the road in 10 to 15 years from now, but kids your age experiment with their sexuality and compete with peers until they finally mature - this is a fact of life, for you too. All girls want that final picture of a white wedding from the age of 9 on, but it's not reality, so get used to it. It depends on how you handle your part in the game-playing until you all grow up. Concentrate on school and what you want for your future, then pick a guy just for you who knows that the games are over. There is no harm in a little petting, but don't let it lead it away from your important goal, and that's to have a good future first. Like I said, have fun, but stay safe, please....

Growing up can be fun, if you don't go overboard.