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    Is there any hope for me and my ex girlfriend?

    Asked Jun 10, 2013, 12:24 PM 6 Answers
    Okay, this is kind of a long story, so bear with me, I'll do my best to water it down. So basically my ex girlfriend and I broke up about a month and a half ago, and we have maintained a friendship throughout the time, talking regularly and keeping in contact. She had always wanted to get back together, and I felt that I just needed more time of not being in a relationship.

    Recently, however, I have had an epiphany and realized that I made a mistake by breaking up with her so suddenly. I mentioned this to her, and instead of her being happy and wanting to get back together, she was complacent and only said she needed time to sort out her feelings. We still talked, but the way we talked was different, she wasn't her normal fun self anymore. So about a week or so after she said she wanted time to think, I asked her about our status and she said that she wanted be friends, because she feels that ever since we broke up things haven't been the same, and she doesn't think they ever will be. I was devastated to hear this because I love her so much, and I realize that breaking up with her was a mistake, she still means so much to me and I want nothing more than to have her back.

    After she said that, she said she needs a break and wanted space for awhile, and I agreed and said I did too. So yesterday, about a week or so after that whole incident, I texted her saying I was sorry for everything, and I was ready to put the past behind us and build a strong relationship like we used to have. The thing is she never texted me back, and is ignoring every attempt of contact I make. It's making me really sad and depressed because I love her so much, and I really do not want her being with another guy! Lately, she's been all about living life in the moment and not having any regrets , which is a great outlook on life, but it just feels like she's completely forgotten all about me.

    My main question is: I am so in love with the girl and want nothing more than to be her, I feel totally forgotten about because we were together for about a year and 3 months and it feels like she doesn't even care about our time together. So do you guys think there is any hope for us getting back together? And if so, what would be the best way to go about getting back together?

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    Jun 10, 2013, 12:30 PM
    You broke up with her and then changed your mind... she probably found someone else instead of waiting around for you to figure out what you wanted. She then said she wanted her own space and you agreed but then tried contacting her...

    Honestly, it sounds like it's over.
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    Jun 10, 2013, 12:49 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by odinn7 View Post
    You broke up with her and then changed your mind....she probably found someone else instead of waiting around for you to figure out what you wanted. She then said she wanted her own space and you agreed but then tried contacting her....

    Honestly, it sounds like it's over.
    I'm not saying that what I did was right, it was obviously stupid mistakes that I made. But, would more space (without any contact at all) possibly help my situation? I don't really think I'll find another girl that I get along with and understand as well as I do with her.
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    Jun 10, 2013, 12:55 PM
    I'm not talking about any mistakes you made, you are talking about them... all I am saying is that she is moving on and you probably should as well to avoid hurting yourself more.

    This idea of using No Contact as a way to make someone run back to you keeps popping up on this site but people don't seem to understand that NC is to help someone get over someone else... it is not a game to make the other person feel lonely and want to come back.

    You do what you want of course but the way I see it, it's over. She's not answering you anymore so what does that tell you?
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    Jun 10, 2013, 03:47 PM


    Leave her alone and avoid being a pest guy because even though you had an epiphany, she did not and has taken to No Contact. You do the same and leave it be.

    If she comes back or changes her mind she will let you know, but until then, live your life and enjoy as much as you can.
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    Jun 10, 2013, 11:39 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    Leave her alone and avoid being a pest guy because even though you had an epiphany, she did not and has taken to No Contact. You do the same and leave it be.
    If she comes back or changes her mind she will let you know, but until then, live your life and enjoy as much as you can.
    Great advice, but it's really hard to not think about her all the time. Do you have any advice on how to move on and not constantly be over thinking everything between the two of us?
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    Jun 11, 2013, 07:42 AM
    Do stuff with friends and family... keep occupied.
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