My parents stayed together after my Dad molested my sister. Of course it was a different time and it was not reported. We all grew up loving each other and forgiving the flaws and we all grew to be normal productive citizens. Then I married a man who molested my daughter. I called social service, had him arrested, and divorced him. But the love I feel though changed has never died and my kids are all grown. Can a relationship after the fact still work? Is anybody out there trying it. This man tore my world apart once, I can not go through that again. Is anybody out there making it work?

excon

Hello:

People who hurt children suck......... It's very popular to hate these people nowadays. I don't like 'em much myself. However, I think you're missing the boat.

I guess lots of us think that if we keep doing the things we do to "sex offenders" that we REALLY ARE safer. I suppose that it's an illusion government has to project. However, in the real world, your children are no safer by doing what we're doing.

As I alluded to earlier, I think you (America) are fooling yourself by concentrating on "sex offenders".

I'm not a member of YOUR class of society. I'm a member of THEIR class - the underworld. I know who they are. You don't. There are MANY more dangerous people living amongst you than "sex offenders".

Why don't you require a robber registry? What about those nasty burglars? I haven't even mentioned muggers or, god forbid, murderers. Wouldn't you like to know where those people live too?

excon

RubyPitbull

4answers & excon, I completely understand the anger & frustration you feel, and the desire to get your personal opinions across, but please remember this is not your platform and you are both beginning to veer off topic. We are here on this thread solely to help BEEN THERE with her problem.

excon

Hello again, answerdude:

I justified WHAT crime???? I think you need to read it again, Dude!

excon

4answers

My apologies. Yes there are people who do a lot worse damage than sex offenders. Drug pushers for example. My point was that all of these people should be delt with the same. Ie Punished then Rehabilitated if possible.

Homegirl 50

This topic is about a problem with a sex offender, not other criminals. Seems to me that if you want a platform, start a topic. I don't see the point of whining on this one.
I have no respect for criminals PERIOD. But pedophiles are the lowest of the low. They prey on innocent children. IMO they should be hung.

RubyPitbull

We need to stick to helping BEEN THERE with her problem. Everything else should not be open for discussion here. Sorry, but those are the rules on this site. We need to help the poster and not get into our personal agendas or opinions.

So, BEEN THERE, how are you doing? Is there anything else you want to talk about or do you want to turn this thread into a political or legal discussion? It really is up to you.

Homegirl 50

I stand corrected.

lesp

Well i am going threw it now, What you went threw- life is to short and you deserved someone who cares enough, It's not a mistake what he did but weeks of thinking before he did it. Take a chance date enjoy yourself, grand kids are next enjoy them when they come into your life. If you go back with him you miss out on your family. I have a question was it hard to let your kids see him if you did.

BEEN THERE

No because I haven't it was just a thought. These good people have shown me the error of my ways.
And as for a political forum
If I thought we could hash it out and come to an agreement on what is fair and the government would act on it I would love to hold one. But since That is never going to happen it is pointless.
But in my opinion !st time offenders 5yrs, 5yrs probation part of which would demand 5 years of counciling, 10 yrs on the registry
2nd offense-Death

J_9

WOW, really strong coming from you. But, my question is, should we give them a second chance to take the innocence of a child?

Don't get me wrong, I am all for the death penalty in certain instances, but is death really the answer?

I guess this brings us back to the political arena doesn't it?