Thank you, but now what do I expect?

Mommy_2_be · #1 Nov 16, 2006, 03:45 PM

Okay, so I thank all of you for your harsh and brutal, but very true opinions in my last question. But here is another few for ya!

Okay so now I am 34 weeks along, and things are okay, I have early contractions and I get super stressed out. But I love the guy. He means a lot to me and I would do anything for him to want to "grow up" and want to be apart of his daughters life. Do you see that happening? I know that things are really bad between us and living together probably is NOT in any means making the situation better, but is there ANY chance that he will come around?

I guess part of him knows that he's made the mistake this time; he is now drinking his life away and he is letting go of himself and all the great features about him...I dont know. Will things get better or should I move on with my life? Raise our little girl by myself and make the best of it?

HELP ME!

bluerose · Nov 28, 2006, 07:42 AM

No one can really answer these questions but you. You can't change him, only he can do that. Can you live with him the way he is? You could go off and make a new life for yourself and your daughter but sooner or later your daughter is going to want to know about, and may even want to see, her dad. He is not going to simply disappear. He may suddenly have a change of heart and want to be involved in his daughter‘s life. Are you ready for that? May I ask what age you both are?

valinors_sorrow · Nov 28, 2006, 07:48 AM

Nevermind what he is going to do ... what are you going to do? I say to you now as gently as is humanly possible--- "harsh" and "brutal" is what people here say when they don't want to hear and then act on the truth. There is no helping people like that. Are you one of them?

kay13 · Nov 28, 2006, 08:04 AM

Go back to your first post, read it again together with all the advice....this is all you need to do, he will not change, he's the loser.



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