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I have a teenage daughter (who is black) that wants to date a teenage boy (who is Korean). I am having a great deal of trouble with this concept, I don't care about my daughter dating outside her race but, Koreans are such intolerant people I feel he will hurt her emotionally. They are both very good students and they both attend church. I would like to tell my child to look for another type of boy to date. The current problem is that they were out shopping at the local mall and he saw a member of his church and hide from the church member pretending he was not with my daughrter. My daughter has asked him for an explanation for his strange behavior and all he said is that he cannot talk about it. The emotions and self-esteem of a young black girl living in American is a very fragile thing and I cannot have this guy destroy it with his racial short slightness, ignorance, and confusion. How do I tell my daughter to leave him alone and all Koreans and find another boyfriend
Blanket Response to all the reply to my question regarding interracial dating (teens).
First! THE PERSON WHO SUGGESTED "ALL BLACKS GIRLS ARE EASY" This is not a moral issues. I do not have the time to explain race relationship to WHITE PEOPLE. The problem surronding black and stereotypes come directly for WHITES how can you began to speak to me. My questions go directly to people of color not people with issues.
Second! I am so sorry to find out this is not a website for help. It a site for escape.
Third! Do not post any comments to me I am not interest!
Fourth! Never said I was not racist. We all are racist at some point, talking about it freely and openly will open the door to greater understanding. Some wrote "Do I know all Koreans" I find that question stupid at best! The statement that Koreans are intolerant people came for a Korean man of advance years, who has spent half his life living in Korea and the other half living in United States. I think he knows alot more than you!
I wonder... Not all Koreans are intolerable. Have you met the guy? Ask your daughter what she thinks of him but really you can't stop them dating because if you give them a rule they are just going to want to break it. Thats my advice just spend some time with him and your daughter. And that was just 1 Korean man... A lot of things could have happened to him that could affect his personality and outlook on people and life.
out of curiosity... what do you think YOUR daughter would do if she saw a few black members of her church while she was at the mall with this Korean boy?
ok i didnt have much to add to this one until i got to this.... "Second! I am so sorry to find out this is not a website for help. It a site for escape.
Third! Do not post any comments to me I am not interest!
Fourth! Never said I was not racist. We all are racist at some point, talking about it freely and openly will open the door to greater understanding. Some wrote "Do I know all Koreans" I find that question stupid at best! The statement that Koreans are intolerant people came for a Korean man of advance years, who has spent half his life living in Korea and the other half living in United States. I think he knows alot more than you!"......
This isnt a website for help? my have i been duped then as since may i thought it was a great place to get help, secondly, you came here for help, then attacked people who responded just because it might not have been something you wanted to hear.
thirdly..you say you are not interested in the replies...great stuff, i can sleep tonight knowing theres one more selfish person in this world who doesnt realize when people are TRYING to help you,then getting attacked and told you dont want to hear anymore....
I am sure if your daughter is old enough (in your eyes) to have a boyfriend i am sure she is old enough to make her own decision on who she goes out with, the more you tell her no, the more she will see him, thats life.
*true story**** I always wanted to go to ireland when i was growing up, but was always told by my family that it was a dangerous place, they are terroists (not my oppinion), everything bad that you hear about the irish i got thrown at me...you know, i went there and experienced it for myself, fell in love with the place, the people, i found them to be very decent, hard working, moral, friendly people i have ever met, so much so i now live there and have never once felt unwelcome....so much for what other people say...
do you get my point? get to know this guy, show your daughter what an adult you are by pushing aside your dislike for where this guy is from and being happy that your daughter has found someone who makes her happy.
things could be a lot worse, instead of going to church with him she could spend her time taking drugs and having sex...never push a good kid into bad things...which is exactly what you will do if you push her away over this.
and, i dont want to get involved with the whole race thing, but i wanted to add, im not a racist person, everybody is human, we were all born the same and we will all die, thats the bottom line..so a person has a different colour skin to me, big deal, i have more important things to worry about than the colour/race/religion of a person.
i also have to add....nothing to do with your problem at all but hey it might make you think.....
my partner is irish, im english, my family hate him because of where he is from, they cannot stand him, he has never done anything to them, has always been respectful, all he has ever got in return is abuse, calls at 4am calling him an "irish b*****d", the list goes on.
let me tell you one thing, even though before you said you didnt care about the replies..one night he broke down and cried in front of me because of everything they were saying about him, he didnt understand why, he didnt know what he had done to them, and it was one of the hardest things i have had to do when i had to tell him to his face its because of where he is from.
just remember one thing...that korean you dislike so much has feelings too.
Teaching a child hatred is child abuse, no matter what color you are.
If you were really a good mom, with the best interest of your child, you'd make a better effort to find out who this fellow is, and what he is about. What your talking about will drive a wedge between you. Your choice, your child or your own hatred.
Annie_123 You are a racist! HOW DARE YOU SAY: SPOKEN LIKE A TRUE WHITE PERSON, you make me sick. You might just be the type of person if living here which would fuel British national party support! - a bunch of low life, racists!
Here in england I have many multi race friends. Iranians, lebonese, KOREAN, Chinese, nigerian. It really doesn't bother me where there from. I don't no what life is like in the U.S. but it certainly isn't like your portraying here. You have limited views and a poor understanding of the world.
'koreans are intolerant' - what a load of twaddle, were all bought up differently, we all have different backgrounds and so we all have different parents. But we are all individuals. Let your daughter live her own life and learn from her own mistakes.
We all live on the same planet, so whats the problem? Were all human, we all have our flaws and good parts. Does it really matter what hair color, skin color or from what background your from. by the way my Korean friend is a great guy ;P
yes i did annie, hence the answer i gave you.i wont say anymore about it as its obvious you are just on a racist trip trying to get everyone arguing. by the way you are doing a really great job of not being interested in the replies you get! , i hope your daughter is old enough to make up her own mind and carry on seeing her boyfriend.
just curious, if this boy gets her pregnant, will you make her get the baby aborted as it will have korean blood?
before you carry on disagreeing with everybody take a look at your origional post, then ask yourself why you are attacking everyone who answers your post, i dont get it, did you think that you could come here with racist comments and nobody would care?, dry your eyes, stop throwing the toys out of the pram because you are too immature to put a persons creed before the actual person.
i wish your daughter all the luck in the world, shes going to need it.
Both kids are great! Both high GPA, a very devoted to family. Did you read or understand anything I wrote?
Sounds as if they have more sense than you do, and you should leave them alone. What church do you go to that allows you to preach such hate??? How can you be so angry will such a well adjusted child?
All white people are members of the KKK
All black people are criminals
All Koreans are intolerant
All Muslims are terrorists
All Irish are drunks
All Americans are fat
All Mexicans are lazy
All Brits have bad teeth
All French are elitist
All Germans are Nazis
You should keep your daughter far, far away from this boy and anyone who is not black. Tell her how horrible they and everyone who is not black is and repeat it until she gets it.
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