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I have a teenage daughter (who is black) that wants to date a teenage boy (who is Korean). I am having a great deal of trouble with this concept, I don't care about my daughter dating outside her race but, Koreans are such intolerant people I feel he will hurt her emotionally. They are both very good students and they both attend church. I would like to tell my child to look for another type of boy to date. The current problem is that they were out shopping at the local mall and he saw a member of his church and hide from the church member pretending he was not with my daughrter. My daughter has asked him for an explanation for his strange behavior and all he said is that he cannot talk about it. The emotions and self-esteem of a young black girl living in American is a very fragile thing and I cannot have this guy destroy it with his racial short slightness, ignorance, and confusion. How do I tell my daughter to leave him alone and all Koreans and find another boyfriend
This is more of a comment than a question. I am so sick of my nationality (African Amereican) blaming other races for our problems. Some of these people have more excuses than ever.
My parents taught all 10 of us children, and yes we all have the same mother and father so that baby daddy stereotype call be smoked, that we should hate white people because of what they did to us in slavery. What kind of BS can anyone teach their kids. I dont ever remember being a slave but only a slave to my parents.
This is sickening and disturbing. I love all people. I may not like them but I love them. I love my parent, although I dont like them.
If any race wants to be poor, Its because they choose to. Im sick of black people saying that the "white man holding them down".lol Negro please! you holdin yourself down. Just cause your parents where poor and raised you to live like it doesnt mean you have to be. Get some motivation and read the bible. Believe me, It help.
Stop blaming everyone for your incompotency and bust a move! The problem is, we trust in ourselves too much and dont put enough trust in God. We are The Lords little children. He doesnt expect us to fend for ourselves like some of our parents left us to do.
I wouldn't tell your daughter that she couldnt see home because that will only make things worse. why dont you get to know this boy better? or tell them they can see each other buut only under your supervision for awhile. When your daughter is 18 she will probably do what she wants anyway. but I dont think the race of them should matter.
Be a parent and pull rank. You have every right to dictate who your daughter can and cannot date. Don't let yourself be made to feel guilty by those who would claim that you're being racist or prejudiced, etc. The fact that this guy had to hide from a member of his own church so that he wouldn't realize that this boy and your daughter were together, followed by his refusal to talk about it, is a huge red flag. You have every right and responsibility to protect your daughter from such hurtful behavior.
How can the momma give advice or even want to meet the kid when she has already stereotyped him. The only people who should give advice are people with a sound mind. Unfortunately this lady is insane
I'll admit I answered the original question before reading the rest of the posts. Upon reading them it does sound like the OP has a racist agenda and that's not a good thing. It doesn't change my opinion about her controlling who her daughter dates but it should be for the right reasons. Hiding from an acquaintance when in her presence constitutes a good reason as far as I'm concerned and this particular person should be avoided like the plague. That certainly shouldn't be attributed to the fact that he's Korean. But he does have issues which make her dating him not a good thing.
You are teaching your child bigotry and hatred. Why could only a black person understand what you are saying? Why did you chastise Jizer saying "spoken like a true white person"? You are spewing intolerance - why not just leave the kids alone and let this young relationship die its natural death - no need to share your racism with your daughter.
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Wow, as a white man who lives in the South, I never thought my first Klan meeting would be led by a black woman who hates Koreans.
"letmetellu disagrees: Very bad thng to say even as a joke."
Interesting. The OP is a flaming racist and you find fault with my comment. Looks like my second Klan meeting will be led by a person of undetermined race, probably under the hood, who hates white guys that hate hate black women that hate Koreans.
You shouldn't feed off ignorance. Having someone say something like that about your daughter would probably be upsetting for you; so you shouldn't try to implement such thoughts into her. Let them enjoy what's going on, because after all, it is between the two of them. See where it goes and how long it lasts. Wouldn't it be nice knowing that the person you once thought was wrong for your daughter turn out to be the complete opposite? If he treats her right and loves her for her, then you shouldn't have to worry about anything. Don't live off assumption,instead, live off experience.
Ok I was off a little. All I can say is that you should try to talk to her about it. Not about leaving him (because that's not going to solve anything) but rather, about building confidence in herself, so if this were to continue, she ends up not losing. At the end of the day, she'll have tough skin, and she'll have you to thank for it.
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