I followed everyone's advice and spoke to him about everything even telling him that i don't trust him and I feel so much better besides feeling exhausted!

I brought up instances that I remember very clearly and his response was:-

Shocked! But, as its all of a sexual nature, he said that he felt sick and awful that I think of him this way and is devastated. He said its in my head, which I have not taken lightly, as I am a survivor of child sexual abuse and to be told that its in my head is devastating, as that means I'm sick. He swore on his family that it wasn't true and that I didn't see what I thought I saw. He blatantly sat there and said that what I saw didn't happen.

The problem is now I am starting to doubt myself. I know that I don't trust my instincts and I know I have a trust issue in the first place, but I am not blind. Is the sky blue?

I feel so exhausted! How do I get it out of him, as I don't think he is ever going to tell me.

What do I do? I'm not sure how I feel.

I forgot to mention that I have told him I am going home for a few weeks to think about everything, do you think this is right?

He asked if I was coming back- I said yes, I can't just walk away from everything!!

Skell

Yes this cofirms what you thought.

he flirts with other girls.

Now he has passed your lie detector test but admitted he is a fliort what is to stop him cheating on you now. Afterall he'll only think that he has convinced you he doesnt cheat so he'll never expect you to accuse him again.

i think the fact that it even got to a lie detector test speaks volumes about this relationship.

you cant trust him and as far as im concerned rigthly so.

As cat says you have a lot to deal with yourself and i dont think he helps matters!