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I need alot of help with everything thats goin on. Theirs alot and its so long of a story that i dont even know where to begin. We have been together for almost 2 years. I wont say the whole story because its way too long but i will tell you bits and peices. Right now, he thinks i want his friend and i dont. so hes kida ignoring me. I only can talk to him at school and thats it. He wrote a note saying that he feels bad about leaving me but he doesnt wanna be hurt anymore. Their is nothing that anyone can say or do to get me to change my mind.... i already know that no matter what and even if i want to i will not give up on trying to keep us together. Even if I Want to give up on it i wont. I just need some help on trying to get him to understand that i really do love him and i dont want anyone else and i dont want him to be hurt but i wanna stay with him forever. I want him to know that I want things between us to be better than they ever were before and us to try to have fun together and get along better and not be misserable together because we both do love each other and we both dont like hurting each other and going throgh this but some how this is how it is............ i tried writing all this to him in a note but he said that one of his friends took it from him and that he never got it back. I told him to try to call me if he can and he said he would but he never did, then again he really isnt aloud to so maybe thats why..... I tried giving him another note and he said "i'l just lose it" so i ended up keeping it and he never read it. I told him to call me then and that was yesterday. So far he hasnt called. he said he would try though. And when i try to talk to him, he acts like he doesnt know me. I think that since he hasnt read that note he may still think that i want his friend and not him so he may be confused as to why i am talking to him. The day before yesterday, i told him in person that i want him and everything, then we kinda talked for like 10 seconds but then later i went back up to him and he just seemed mad again. This was right before we got out of school that day and then he just kinda walked away from me. The only time he talks to me is when i go up to him and he doesnt really say anything. But he sits next to me in 2 classes and in the 2nd one that we have together, he kept looking at me like he was trying to get my attention and then i kinda looked at him and then looked away and he just said "dont look at me like that"
But i dont know what to do.,. I mean from what i said, do you think if i wait, he will seee im not even talking to his friend and start to come back to me? Should i keep trying to talk or wait a little while before i say more to him? whats the best way to get him to come to me?
And he thinks i want his friend because of something that happened a few weeks ago.... He said he was talking to anoither girl and was going to leave me for her so i lied and said i wanted his friend and then he said he was just joking about her then he said it wasnt a lie and i dont know what to believe their becuase he makes things up sometimes to try to make me mad or see what i would do . but then i noticed him ignoring me so i told him that if he didnt want me to give to his friend because i was mad about eveything he told me about that other girl and when all thart was going on he said he didnt want me anymore so he was going to give to his friend. That all made me mad when i was only thinking about it so i said that to him but only becayse of everything he said to me.
I may have givin u somewhat the wrong idea or not enough info on this because its such along story but i tried to make it short.
but basiccaly i wanna know how i can get him to talk to me
Wow, Beth, to tell the truth, this post was kinda hard to read. Proper paragraphs and punctuation make it so much easier.
Now, is this the same guy that was drinking and doing drugs?
Hun, you can't make anyone do something they are not willing to do. You can't make him want you.
This post was all about what YOU want..."I want him to know..." Even if I want to give up I won't...." etc.
Relationships are not all about what you want, but what is best for both of you. Right now he does not want to be in a relationship with you, and there is nothing you can do to change his mind. Don't even try. Because if you do, and you succeed, he will harbor resentment or mistrust.
It is very obvious that this is not a healthy relationship and that you need to let him have his space and you have your own space. Lying to a partner is never a wise decision and will ALWAYS backfire.
Thats it? I dont get like any real good help? anyone who understands and knows exactly what to do? I mean, ok, if i want us to dtay toegther but he doesnt, what do we do? He wanted us to stay together before but now its like he thinks i just wanna hurt him and i dont. and i know part of him still wants to stay with me.,.......
this is the only time he has ever wanted to leave and wasnt mad but usually i talk him into staying. now, its gettign harder because i think maybe just maybe i really could live without him but i dunno. i lost all my feelings. but i still see it like hes always gonna be their with me. its like this time im just not trying as hard. \
also.... i dont believe in god. but i preayed to god anyways to dream out all the answers to everything that will happen so i know what to do..... that night i had a dream he changed and was alot better towards me.... he keeps talking to this girl at my school. they seem to just argue alot in a joking way. but i had another dream a few nights later that he liked her
i know part of him wants to stay because of what he said when he wrote me. he said he didnt wanna be hurt anymore and he felt bad about leaving me but he hopes that everything works out with me and his friend. ..... i dont want his friend though and i cant get the chance to teel him that..... i know if we could talk about it it would chang
it would change because i would get the chance to let him know how much i love him and i dont want him to be hurt. and yeah you do no me SHHHHHH!!!!!!!!
do you think theres still a chance he will want to talk to me?
It seems like inside he wants to but then he just doesnt show that he wants to... like hes trying to see how far i will go to get him to talk to me or something.
but i had a dream last night that i was holding hands with someone else. I prayed to god i would dream about what would happen with this whole thing. At least, i think it was someone else but it could have been him but he doesnt like to hold hands. The person in my dream had longer hair though but hes letting his grow out anyways even though i told him he looks better with it shorter.
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