I need alot of help with everything thats goin on. Theirs alot and its so long of a story that i dont even know where to begin. We have been together for almost 2 years. I wont say the whole story because its way too long but i will tell you bits and peices. Right now, he thinks i want his friend and i dont. so hes kida ignoring me. I only can talk to him at school and thats it. He wrote a note saying that he feels bad about leaving me but he doesnt wanna be hurt anymore. Their is nothing that anyone can say or do to get me to change my mind.... i already know that no matter what and even if i want to i will not give up on trying to keep us together. Even if I Want to give up on it i wont. I just need some help on trying to get him to understand that i really do love him and i dont want anyone else and i dont want him to be hurt but i wanna stay with him forever. I want him to know that I want things between us to be better than they ever were before and us to try to have fun together and get along better and not be misserable together because we both do love each other and we both dont like hurting each other and going throgh this but some how this is how it is............ i tried writing all this to him in a note but he said that one of his friends took it from him and that he never got it back. I told him to try to call me if he can and he said he would but he never did, then again he really isnt aloud to so maybe thats why..... I tried giving him another note and he said "i'l just lose it" so i ended up keeping it and he never read it. I told him to call me then and that was yesterday. So far he hasnt called. he said he would try though. And when i try to talk to him, he acts like he doesnt know me. I think that since he hasnt read that note he may still think that i want his friend and not him so he may be confused as to why i am talking to him. The day before yesterday, i told him in person that i want him and everything, then we kinda talked for like 10 seconds but then later i went back up to him and he just seemed mad again. This was right before we got out of school that day and then he just kinda walked away from me. The only time he talks to me is when i go up to him and he doesnt really say anything. But he sits next to me in 2 classes and in the 2nd one that we have together, he kept looking at me like he was trying to get my attention and then i kinda looked at him and then looked away and he just said "dont look at me like that"
But i dont know what to do.,. I mean from what i said, do you think if i wait, he will seee im not even talking to his friend and start to come back to me? Should i keep trying to talk or wait a little while before i say more to him? whats the best way to get him to come to me?
And he thinks i want his friend because of something that happened a few weeks ago.... He said he was talking to anoither girl and was going to leave me for her so i lied and said i wanted his friend and then he said he was just joking about her then he said it wasnt a lie and i dont know what to believe their becuase he makes things up sometimes to try to make me mad or see what i would do . but then i noticed him ignoring me so i told him that if he didnt want me to give to his friend because i was mad about eveything he told me about that other girl and when all thart was going on he said he didnt want me anymore so he was going to give to his friend. That all made me mad when i was only thinking about it so i said that to him but only becayse of everything he said to me.


I may have givin u somewhat the wrong idea or not enough info on this because its such along story but i tried to make it short.
but basiccaly i wanna know how i can get him to talk to me

beth911

Have you read everything else i said ? Its not that he doesnt love me.... its just that he thinks i want someone else when i dont. and he says he doesnt wanna be hurt

Wondergirl

Lemme see --

- he thinks i want his friend
- hes kida ignoring me
- he wrote a note saying that he doesnt wanna be hurt anymore
- he said that one of his friends took [the note from me] from him and that he never got it back
- he said he would [call] but he never did
- he said "i'l just lose [another note from me]"
- he hasnt called
- he acts like he doesnt know me
- he just seemed mad again
- he just kinda walked away from me
- The only time he talks to me is when i go up to him
- he doesnt really say anything
- i kinda looked at him and then [he] looked away and said "dont look at me like that"
- he said he was talking to anoither girl and was going to leave me for her
- then he said he was just joking about her then he said it wasnt a lie
- i noticed him ignoring me
- he said he didnt want me anymore
- he was going to give [me] to his friend

Now, what is your question again?

beth911

Its how i can get to tell him everything i wanna tell him, and you only metioned the bad parts, not ant of the goodf

beth911

and some how i just now that we will still end up together. I really just know it

Wondergirl

I summarized only what you said he did or said. I didn't read any "good parts" that he did or said.

Wondergirl

Your "knowing it" has no basis in fact. I am absolutely sure I will win the Illinois lottery Tuesday evening, but my "knowing" that doesn't make it true and won't make it happen.

beth911

It wasnt good that he felt bad about leaving me? Hes ignoring me because i want his friend. he thinks im with his friend and thats why. I cant tell him that im not because i cant talk to him.
and when he said to quit looking at him like that he didnt say it in a bad way, he said it like he would before any of this, like he wanted to talk to me. then he kept looking at me and facing me like he was trying to get my attention but i couldnt say anything because it was in the middle of class and we sit like right up front by the teacher

Wondergirl

Why does he thinks you want his friend?
Why is he ignoring you?
Why did he write a note saying that he doesn't wanna be hurt anymore?
Why did he say that he would [call] but he never did?
Why hasn't he called at all -- or IMed or emailed?
Why does he act like he doesnt know you?
Why does he seem mad again?
Why does he walk away from you?
Why does he talk to you only when you go up to him?
Why doesn't he really say anything?
Why does he say, "Dont look at me like that."
Why does he say he was talking to anoither girl and was going to leave you for her?
Why does he ignore you? then he said he was just joking about her then he said it wasnt a lie
Why does he say he doesn't want you anymore?
Why does he want to give you to his friend? (huh???)

beth911

He called... but it didnt go so well. But my mom thinks hes just playing around and in a few more days or so he'll come back wanting to tlak with me.

Wondergirl, Remember the story about Tyler? Do you know who i am? Remember how he was "testing" me? The only way to end the test was if i failed and he brought up his froend so i said fine, you found someone else already so yeah have tyler call me.

Thats the reason to all of this.
And when he said dont look at me like that it was because i kinda rolled my eyes at him and he didnt say it like he was mad or anything, just like he was joking around with me\
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SOrry about all my typos

beth911

and i ask him some of those same4 questions...... he says he doesnt know why he doesnt like me anymore or why he doesnt wanna talk,