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    Wiggy22 Posts: 37, Reputation: 1
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    Jun 6, 2008, 11:30 AM
    Taking a break?
    All right, my girlfriend calls me one night, she sounds odd.. I ask her what's wrong and she says she's confused.. anyway, she goes on to tell me about all the stress on her, and the stress within her family, she then goes to tell me that we should take a break. I asked if she thought we would get our relationship started again, and she said "im sure we will".. after all of this she still told me she loved me.. shes not one to use that word lightly, so she really meant it.. anyway, I'm asking you all what I should do.
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    Jun 6, 2008, 11:36 AM
    She might really be stress and need to sort things out so give her what she requested and let her clear her head. This break can even make or break you. It you two might get back together in the future if its your destiny.
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    Jun 6, 2008, 11:39 AM
    I mean, we're in love with each other, she knows I love her a lot and I know she loves me a lot, I just.. I just don't want to lose her... and I really don't know how to act towards her during this break.
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    Jun 6, 2008, 11:44 AM
    The first thing I would say is... if she loves you as much as you think she does then she should want YOUmore than anyone to be there while she is stressed. Are you sure she is not trying to tell you something more?

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    Jun 6, 2008, 11:44 AM
    Like what would she be trying to tell me?
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    Jun 6, 2008, 11:44 AM
    Just keep your distance, go out and have some fun. Call the guys up and have a guys night, enjoy the time. Biggest thing, GIVE HER SPACE or it will push her farther away
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    Jun 6, 2008, 11:48 AM
    I just don't want to push her too far to the point that she doesn't want me back, I doubt that'll happen, but there has to be a limit on how much space to give her.. like how often should I speak with her?. or should I just break contact?
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    Jun 6, 2008, 11:53 AM
    You take it a day at a time. You can force yourself on someone. What cantbreath was saying is that you lean on people for support when needed instead of facing it alone. How long she wants a break no one knows also sometime people say they want a break when they really wants to end the relationship. You stated she been acting odd, so who knows, really only her.

    Meanwhile, you don't drown in sorrow waiting, waiting for her to call to tell you the break is over. Do things that will keep you busy instead of being sad because it can only lead to depression and anger. Accept it.
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    Jun 6, 2008, 11:57 AM
    Well I mean it was just her voice, it sounded like she had been crying, and I mean she's not one to say anything she doesn't mean, she wouldn't tell she thinks that we'd get back together, unless she actually meant it.
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    Jun 6, 2008, 12:02 PM
    She probulary was crying bdecause it hurted her to say what she said.Most people who asked for a break states that your will get back together.Did she tell you exactly what was bothering her in details?
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    Jun 6, 2008, 12:03 PM
    Yes, her dad's trying to come back into her life, and she just, abhors him.
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    Jun 6, 2008, 12:05 PM
    Unfortunately people say things ALL the time that they don't mean because they are trying to do the right thing. You have to respect her wishes at this time even although it will be very very hard for you. If she truly loves you she will let you know. There is nothing more you can do at this point, she knows how much you love her and want to be with her but ultimately it's her choice to decide if she comes back or not. I hope it works out for you but please remember you are worth more please don't sell yourself short by hanging around waiting until she decides.
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    Jun 6, 2008, 12:07 PM
    Thanks man, I just don't want to leave her because she really does mean a lot to me, more than any other girl.. I just don't want to leave her to early..
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    Jun 6, 2008, 12:16 PM
    You have to give her time that's the only thing you can do because she not cheating she just have family issues. You can call her, not everyday, to give her your support.
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    Jun 6, 2008, 12:23 PM
    Yeah, that's what I was thinking, I just don't really want to give her too much time and look neglectful.
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    Jun 6, 2008, 12:39 PM
    Thanks for these tips guys, this things really been bothering me since she's said it.
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    Jun 6, 2008, 12:47 PM
    Hi Wiggy,

    I just read your post, and I agree with the advice that you have received so far. It is best that you give her space, and by all means, you can contact her, but I wouldn't do it everyday, maybe once every week or two weeks. If she loves you, she will be back, she just needs time to get some things ironed out in her own life at the moment.

    Keep us posted, okay?
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    Jun 6, 2008, 12:50 PM
    I'll keep you guys posted on how it ends up... I had read stuff that like, people have the same situation, and the girl ends up cheating on the guy, which I really would hate for that to be the case.
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    Jun 6, 2008, 01:08 PM
    Every situation is different and people asks for breaks for different reasons, her is more of resolving her family issues.
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    Jun 6, 2008, 01:11 PM
    But do you think that she wants to get back together with me after all the dust has cleared?
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